What is a Venusian Artist?
A Venusian Artist is a man dedicated to the arts of attraction, comfort and seduction. Notice how all three fields were mentioned; meaning they must all be closely monitored and incorporated into my own personal life if I want to be successful when it comes to bedding and building close relationships with the women I want in my life.
A Venusian Artist isn't just a 'player', but more so of a social artist. He incorporates everything around him, aware of his surroundings and is able to read situations based on certain traits in people such as their energy, body language and tonality. The Venusian Arts is lifestyle - though it should be treated as a glorified hobby. Just as martial arts allows to improve a man's chance to survive, the Venusian Arts allows a man to improve his chances on replicating.
Survival = Replication (The two go hand in hand)
Attraction -> Comfort -> Seduction
A1 - opening
A2 - female to male interest
A3 - male to female interest
C1 - rapport
C2 - connection
C3 - intimacy
S1 - arousal
S2 - last minute resistance
S3 - sex
Who is Charisma?
Charisma is me. It's a word/title/name that identifies all the traits I want to be able to display to people on a regular basis. It's as a result my alter ego.
Chairma's traits:
1) Sexual Tension/Air - ability to be cool and laid back
2) Designer of own Universe - master of own reality and ability to drag people into my world
3) Confident - never having to apologize for anything I do in my life, ability to do something without second guessing myself
4) Loyalty - I put my friends and family first before anything. I can honestly say the feeling is mutual and I am very fortunate to having very close friends like that.
5) Connection - has the ability to bring a woman close to him and break down her and his shields; so that both can have the chance to grow and become more than what they were before the interaction.
What do I want to accomplish within the next couple of weeks?
I want to be able to reach my pshysical peak, and become confident with my entire body, so I can move with grace and ease. Along side that, I want to be able to portray a powerful sense of awe and power when I walk into a room, without making it look 'Try hard'.
I want to be able to meet at least 2 new people within the next month, people who I want to bring into my close network of friends. Aside from that, I want to have the luxery of bringing a woman of my choosing into my reality and create a genuine relationship.
For the wealth portion of my life, I want to be stable in my new condo, and get a phonecall from the government to get an offer for an interview for the position I been fighting to get for the past couple of months. I want to do something more meaningful in my life than work at Futureshop. Even if it means I need to look on my own personal time.
How should I be portraying myself?
Cool, collective, sexual, honest, loyal, playful, non-needy, fascinating, animated/articulant, and comforting individual. <- Officially this is my new emotional matrix.
What are my weaknesses?
Cocky, witty, fumble over own words, minor form of A.D.D, arrogant, eject or make excuses to avoid an interaction, too high energy.
What are my strengths?
Prideful, loyal, animated, ambitious, captivating, alluring, not afraid to speak my mind, loud, knowledgable, improvisational and ability to create close rapport.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Personal Goal for the month of May
1) Focus less on myself in a social interaction and pay more attention on those around me and enjoy their company
2) Work on DHV stories - become a better story teller over all
3) Develop a more sexual air and less of an energetic A.D.D personality (attract the certain type of girls I'm interested in. My attitude and energy highly reflects who comes into my life)
4) Learn how to make more powerful connections with people, so in the event if my target is lost; I still made cool friends in the process
5) Get Day 2's and learn how to master comfort and seduction material
6) Get a passport for future travel
7) Put my thoughts into paper and update personal blog of self journey
8) Get a girl to be close with - not just for sex
9) Fumble less on my words and focus more on eye contact/posture
Those are my personal goals.
2) Work on DHV stories - become a better story teller over all
3) Develop a more sexual air and less of an energetic A.D.D personality (attract the certain type of girls I'm interested in. My attitude and energy highly reflects who comes into my life)
4) Learn how to make more powerful connections with people, so in the event if my target is lost; I still made cool friends in the process
5) Get Day 2's and learn how to master comfort and seduction material
6) Get a passport for future travel
7) Put my thoughts into paper and update personal blog of self journey
8) Get a girl to be close with - not just for sex
9) Fumble less on my words and focus more on eye contact/posture
Those are my personal goals.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Collection of Field Reports
Hey Gents; gonna keep this one short and sweet. I have some plans following morning; but I can't put this field report off any longer. Not to mention I have to record tonight's events as well.
Without further delay...
Date: Saturday 25th of April 2009
Location: Union ~ Whyte Ave
Wings: Saint. Chris VD, Link, TK07, Slyfox
Arrived to Union, and force myself into a set interaction approximately 2 minutes in. I've done enough approaches and gone out with the intention to sarge; to know that if I'm going to focus on sarging, I need to open immediately. Otherwise I'll walk around banging my head, angry that I didn't approach.
The set was lame, and was just an opportunity to get the mouth moving.
The second set, went a lot smoother. I'm out in the smoking pit with TK07, and this two set is adjacent from us - figured she was in my proximity.
C: Hey guys, question for you - where's a good place in Edmonton where people come with the intent to be social?
HB: Blah Blah Blah
C: Cool - for some reason places like this *looks around*tends to have people more on their guard. Bitch shields if you so have it. But you seem to be pretty cool thus far. By the way, I'm Charisma...
HB: Ali - pleasure to meet you -
C: Now introduce me to your friend...
At this point TK07 is running game on my wing; and things are going awesome. We're locked in, leaned back against the fence, and at one point the girls switch positions; clarifying who they're interested in.
Saint comes in and runs the 'hey have you seen...' bit - and realizes that we didn't need an additional wing. We take it from there, playful bantering ensues, and the set walks back into the bar after a 20 min interaction. Rather happy with the results.
Opened a few sets - but nothing worth while recording. Union does have some high bitch shields - but it's fun practice. I don't run into the same problem anywhere else. Helps build the buffer zone.
Which case the 4 of us (excluding Scott and Chris VD), all went to whyte ave to see what the city has aside from the high end clubs - and to throw a change a of scenery. (Union was beginning to become a sausage fest).
We decide to bounce to a small place, which the name escapes me - but it's definately not a place where I'll consider going to again. We eventually bounced away from there, and ended up going to Squires Billard Club - which was set rich like you wouldn't believe. The place was well spaced, packed with people, and the music wasn't overpowering.
Tried pushing Link into a set - but ended up running it myself. The girls were awesome and a pleasure to talk to, and ran some locking in material, and some minor kino (which is my sticking point right now). I even incorporated Link into the set - and it eventually ended on a high note. The target went to go play pool, and it was her turn.
Ran game on a hired gun - who seemed legitimately interested in what I had to say, and she seemed to enjoy my company and ran a few more openers and called it a night.
So key improvements:
Lack of AA
More power in my voice
Willing to lock in
Moving out of my comfort zone and relying less on canned material
Improvements to be made:
Kino Escalating (which is where I lose the girl in Comfort and Day 2...open to tips)
Crash vs ejecting
Night: Thursday 30 April 2009
Location: Iron Horse ~ Bar hopping on Whyte
Wings: Link
Pushed each other to go out; and tonight I found was worth it. Even though we both agreed to stay dry on the wallet (which didn't happen), we would go out and destroy the city. Fueled by ambition and an overwhelming desire for adventure; we sought to explore unknown terrain.
The starting point - Iron Horse.
Rumors were told to me that the bar was sketchy, or it was a Sausage fest. It had come to my realization, that I should make those accusations myself, and even if it was a Sausage Fest - I'm sure most of them would be chodes taking space.
Well, it was a shocker to both me and Link when we realized the place was packed. Some sort of fundraiser was going on in support for a cancer infected student - which I thought was pretty cool. People were incredibly nice and receptive (though it did take me a moment to swallow my AA and approach a set).
Sure enough Link was on his own as well, opening a seated 2 set. He walks up to me and says, 'Hey, we have our own bench now' Cool - let introduce ourselves than!
C: Hey guys, might as well say 'hi'. I'm Charisma
Both respond, very open to the interaction. At this point I'm figuring Link is running game on a target, so I decide to DHV him mentioning he's a photographer - and so on. Girls eat it up like you wouldn't believe.
Eventually Link is talking with the cuter one of the girls, and I decide to keep the other one interested and give her something to do, contribute to the flow of conversation. We have a thumb wrestling match and it gets pretty hard core. Eventually I win, rub it in her face and we have a laugh about it.
Which case I eject myself, seeing I'm no longer needed, and Link follows. It was a practice set for him. It was later we realized we should have either taken the girls to meet and open other sets, or brought sets back to them and have them DHV us.
Run a few more, being cocky and playful, and things are kicking off well. Eventually we change locations after running approx 5 sets each; and run into black dog - which I will admit the scenery is nice - but it was set dry.
We than ran the Attic - which was dead...literally.
And even Philthies had nothing to offer. So we managed to discover what places are kicking on Whtye on a Thursday - which was Hudsons, Iron Horse and Lucky 13. But even they were running a little dry.
After losing motivation, we called it a night - with promising that tomorrow will be another day of opportunities.
Good Key Points:
Winged
DHV story telling
Self pushed to open sets and defeat AA
Things that need improvement:
Backwards and Forwards Merging
Use the people around me and Manipulate a room to my reality
Isolation tactics/techniques.
Till next time - happy gaming!
-Charisma
Without further delay...
Date: Saturday 25th of April 2009
Location: Union ~ Whyte Ave
Wings: Saint. Chris VD, Link, TK07, Slyfox
Arrived to Union, and force myself into a set interaction approximately 2 minutes in. I've done enough approaches and gone out with the intention to sarge; to know that if I'm going to focus on sarging, I need to open immediately. Otherwise I'll walk around banging my head, angry that I didn't approach.
The set was lame, and was just an opportunity to get the mouth moving.
The second set, went a lot smoother. I'm out in the smoking pit with TK07, and this two set is adjacent from us - figured she was in my proximity.
C: Hey guys, question for you - where's a good place in Edmonton where people come with the intent to be social?
HB: Blah Blah Blah
C: Cool - for some reason places like this *looks around*tends to have people more on their guard. Bitch shields if you so have it. But you seem to be pretty cool thus far. By the way, I'm Charisma...
HB: Ali - pleasure to meet you -
C: Now introduce me to your friend...
At this point TK07 is running game on my wing; and things are going awesome. We're locked in, leaned back against the fence, and at one point the girls switch positions; clarifying who they're interested in.
Saint comes in and runs the 'hey have you seen...' bit - and realizes that we didn't need an additional wing. We take it from there, playful bantering ensues, and the set walks back into the bar after a 20 min interaction. Rather happy with the results.
Opened a few sets - but nothing worth while recording. Union does have some high bitch shields - but it's fun practice. I don't run into the same problem anywhere else. Helps build the buffer zone.
Which case the 4 of us (excluding Scott and Chris VD), all went to whyte ave to see what the city has aside from the high end clubs - and to throw a change a of scenery. (Union was beginning to become a sausage fest).
We decide to bounce to a small place, which the name escapes me - but it's definately not a place where I'll consider going to again. We eventually bounced away from there, and ended up going to Squires Billard Club - which was set rich like you wouldn't believe. The place was well spaced, packed with people, and the music wasn't overpowering.
Tried pushing Link into a set - but ended up running it myself. The girls were awesome and a pleasure to talk to, and ran some locking in material, and some minor kino (which is my sticking point right now). I even incorporated Link into the set - and it eventually ended on a high note. The target went to go play pool, and it was her turn.
Ran game on a hired gun - who seemed legitimately interested in what I had to say, and she seemed to enjoy my company and ran a few more openers and called it a night.
So key improvements:
Lack of AA
More power in my voice
Willing to lock in
Moving out of my comfort zone and relying less on canned material
Improvements to be made:
Kino Escalating (which is where I lose the girl in Comfort and Day 2...open to tips)
Crash vs ejecting
Night: Thursday 30 April 2009
Location: Iron Horse ~ Bar hopping on Whyte
Wings: Link
Pushed each other to go out; and tonight I found was worth it. Even though we both agreed to stay dry on the wallet (which didn't happen), we would go out and destroy the city. Fueled by ambition and an overwhelming desire for adventure; we sought to explore unknown terrain.
The starting point - Iron Horse.
Rumors were told to me that the bar was sketchy, or it was a Sausage fest. It had come to my realization, that I should make those accusations myself, and even if it was a Sausage Fest - I'm sure most of them would be chodes taking space.
Well, it was a shocker to both me and Link when we realized the place was packed. Some sort of fundraiser was going on in support for a cancer infected student - which I thought was pretty cool. People were incredibly nice and receptive (though it did take me a moment to swallow my AA and approach a set).
Sure enough Link was on his own as well, opening a seated 2 set. He walks up to me and says, 'Hey, we have our own bench now' Cool - let introduce ourselves than!
C: Hey guys, might as well say 'hi'. I'm Charisma
Both respond, very open to the interaction. At this point I'm figuring Link is running game on a target, so I decide to DHV him mentioning he's a photographer - and so on. Girls eat it up like you wouldn't believe.
Eventually Link is talking with the cuter one of the girls, and I decide to keep the other one interested and give her something to do, contribute to the flow of conversation. We have a thumb wrestling match and it gets pretty hard core. Eventually I win, rub it in her face and we have a laugh about it.
Which case I eject myself, seeing I'm no longer needed, and Link follows. It was a practice set for him. It was later we realized we should have either taken the girls to meet and open other sets, or brought sets back to them and have them DHV us.
Run a few more, being cocky and playful, and things are kicking off well. Eventually we change locations after running approx 5 sets each; and run into black dog - which I will admit the scenery is nice - but it was set dry.
We than ran the Attic - which was dead...literally.
And even Philthies had nothing to offer. So we managed to discover what places are kicking on Whtye on a Thursday - which was Hudsons, Iron Horse and Lucky 13. But even they were running a little dry.
After losing motivation, we called it a night - with promising that tomorrow will be another day of opportunities.
Good Key Points:
Winged
DHV story telling
Self pushed to open sets and defeat AA
Things that need improvement:
Backwards and Forwards Merging
Use the people around me and Manipulate a room to my reality
Isolation tactics/techniques.
Till next time - happy gaming!
-Charisma
Collection of Field Reports
Hey Gents; I know I have been inactive for a long time, and I apologize for that. Some of you may have been aware if you've been 'Sarging' with me in the past couple months that my game had came to a stuttering halt. There were a lot of inner demons that I had to conquer; and after many weeks of self investment (Working out, being social around friends and being spiritual), I feel that I have given myself sufficient value to run decent outer game.
Therefore my foundation of my inner game has finally been poured.
So this Field Report is going to compose of three different nights. Each one with a lesson to teach to exceed in my game. (I can safely say that opening and approaching is no longer my sticking point).
Date: April 4/2009
Location: Rock Stars
Wing(s): Link
Rock Stars....
Unknown territory. Promise of success and adventure; or would this end up being another weekend put to waste? I stare at facebook and my cellphone reading the event/text message from 'D'.
'Hey; we're celebrating a birthday party this weekend. You totally have to come! We're going to rock stars and there's going to be no line and cover. Cake and drinks at my place!'
Was I ready for this? I flipped over my phone and text back, saying I would be there. Impulse action : The night had potential, and at some point I would have to break out of this shell and have fun - or drown in the pool of what is between a PUA and an AFC.
Myself and two close friends of mine, roll up to the buzzer; and the door opens to a friendly, energetic face. My eyes dart across the apartment a something blew me away. There must have been 10-15 people who attended the party; and each one (I shit you not) was drawn back to a wall, separating the guys from the girls. Its what I call the 'Junior High Dance gravitational pull'.
Than something happened. A warm smile crept over my face; a feeling of inner joy over shot my body, and I knew, right than and there:
It was on.
I won't bore you so much on the details; rather than I wasn't acting a Venusian Artist at this point - but as a Social Artist. Greeting everyone, befriending them, connecting; therefore destroying any barrier between them. I was in my element (I love house parties!) and I could tell my friends who came with me, were drawn back. They ended up sitting in the far corner of the couch on the opposite side of the room - as they watch me jump from one group to another.
We eventually bounced the entire group towards Rock Stars, and the night was a foot. It took me a while to find my groove, and I must have ran into at least 12 other PUAs. I saw Wizard from a side glance as I was scoping the place, as he was running isolation/comfort game with a HB 9 (Congrats on solid game by the way); I ran into Echo and Arjun, who than introduced me to their group. In the back of my head I began to panic - there was going to be a lot of competition.
I realized, that at this point, it no longer mattered. There will always be 'competition'. Whether they're chodes, AFCs or PUAs; game will never be handed to you - you need to work for it and truly sell yourself. So I ran a quick practice set to get me into the groove of just talking out loud to a girl (which I found is necessary to warm up and get the ball moving). Than I ran into a new target.
She was one of the girls who showed up to the party, rolling in with a late entrance with a personality of a brick house. It seemed nothing would get through to her at the time. But I realized that was all part of her ‘Bitch Shield’.
After brief introductions with Benim (another PUA), I turn around and walk straight to her with a look of disbelief.
Charisma: 'Hi, you realize that it's incredibly rude to cut someone off in mid conversation.'
Jen: 'What!?'
Charisma: 'I mean, sure we got introductions out of the way, but where does that get you? Nowhere. I left the conversation totally in your hands, and well - *smirk* it totally went downhill from there. So I'm taking over right now.'
Jen: *her eyes light up and the body language changes from close to open*
Charisma: 'Hi...I'm Charisma, and I'm actually French.'
Jen: 'NO WAY! I'm Belgium!'
Charisma: 'Oh god, that means you're a push over right?'
Jen: *shocked*
Charisma: 'Don't mean to bust out the historical facts....'
Jen: 'I LOVE history!'
Charisma: '- and back to me...didn't you guys get walked all over by the Germans in the World Wars....twice?'
- playful bantering from there. We discussed places to travel, what she had going for her other than her looks. Meanwhile, I'm locking in - without even thinking about it, and me and this girl and really connecting. That is....until I get cocked blocked by Benim. (I know it wasn't intentional)
Benim: 'Hey, so how do you guys know each other?'
...
He steps into my set - and now when I think about it, I should have totally AMOGed him for coming into my set without my invitation. I didn't need a wing, I was isolated with my set already. So instead I exchange greetings, and he kinda takes it from there. I go to search my friends and end up losing Jen in the process.
But, Link introduced me to this other 2 set of gorgeous women. (one was a 9.5 in my books. Tattoos, piercing, black hair....oh, did I mention she was a Suicide Girl?)
Nothing really to note for the conversation at the bar, but Link was able to bounce the girls back to his place to a 'sauna party' (best thing ever by the way). At this point I did run into my target again, and number closed her – trying to bounce her with us, but that never fell through.
Back at Link’s place, we’re both running game, having a few drinks and laughs. Telling stories and having a overall good time. At one point, I’m in my underwear coming out of the homemade sauna, feeling more confident than I’ve been in a long time. The interaction taught me an important lesson: That I don’t need props or tools to do well in a set. I am now comfortable with my body, spirit and mind; that I can run game on a girl who I consider almost to be a fucken 10 – in my underwear!!!!!
They turned out to be pretty cool people, and though I didn’t walk away with a close, I at least made two new cool female friends. Who now; I can easily incorporate into new DHV stories.
Date: April 10/2009
Location: Empire
Wing(s): Saint and Shelagh (pivot)
I won’t go into over abundant detail; other what I considered to be noted in this Field Report. I’m running short on time, so I apologize.
We head off to Empire to celebrate Vic’s success as a Bartender – wicked job and mad props for the invite; and as a result we had instant access to VIP. I ran a set in the first 4 minutes I was in the club – which was dead to begin with, since we just arrived at approx 10pm; so things we’re slowly picking up.
Ran the black nails opener; and was able to run a little bit of story telling. The 2 set was seated, and I needed to lock in, but never crossed my mind, till I walked away from it. But the energy in my body was fuelling me, with a minor success to back it up.
We head back to VIP after scoping the floor, where one of my friends introduced us to a birthday party – the girls seemed uninterested and not very attentive. I almost attacked myself again, blaming the situation on myself; when suddenly I noted to come back to this set and re-run it again and leave on somewhat of a high note.
Later throughout the night, Shelagh was hinting she wanted to interact and mingle with people. So I tell her to walk with me, arm and arm, back to the birthday set and I began taking control of it.
Charisma: Okay guys, on first impression, you’re introductions kinda sucked. So we’re doing this again. I’m Charisma by the way – pleasure to meet all of you, and this is Shelagh – one of the coolest people I know.
The set blows open – and I’m juggling a 4 set standing up and out of the group I select a target.
Charisma: Hey, let me see your hands for a second. Good girl. Now stand up – I’m going to show you something cool….*spins and takes her place on her seat*. Haha, I totally stole your seat!
HB 8.5: I would have given it to you if you asked! *laughing*
Charisma: Wow! Really? You get plus 5 cool points for generosity! *hugs*
Things were going well, and though I was somewhat stuttering, I was ploughing through, since I was locked in – and I didn’t want to walk away empty handed. Than Saint pulled up…
Normally, I would have needed his assistance; but the problem was my 4 set changed to a 2 set, and I already had Shelagh as a wing. I didn’t need another one. So that move threw me off. I know he had the best intention and he was trying to add value to my character – but I wanted to take that opportunity just before he got in, to run some kino. I probably still could have, but I got nervous since normally I don’t get this far in a set.
As a result I ejected, and somewhat disappointed that I left, I was happy to see that my game has been moving forward – especially after a three weeks (if not more) dry spell of not opening or approaching.
Specifically for wings: Run the ‘Hey have you seen – person - ?’ line. We’ll flag you in if we need you; but that comes with practice, and I do appreciate the help guys. I really do. Just let me fly solo sometimes ^_-.
Other than that, there really wasn’t anything else I can record that really made a dramatic impact on me.
Date: April 11/2008
Location: The Bank
Wing(s): None…This is where I would needed one.
Text message, after text message, phone call – and another text…
‘Are you here yet?!’ It’s Connie; and she’s getting anxious.
I laugh to myself on the LRT, making my way towards the bar. It has gotten to the point where in my social circles; people rely on me to bring interest to the night, and I’m not one to disappoint.
I arrive at the bank; and I see Connie with one of her female friends who’s an attractive woman. I looked at Connie – and though she’s dramatically shorter than me, she’s looking incredibly good tonight.
I walk in, making a late and dramatic entrance. I walk towards the group and she stares at me for a second with nothing to offer, so I hold my arms up for a hug, and she walks towards me with a smile, and suddenly I spin around and hug her friend and introduce myself. She stands there shocked, and I laugh and pull her into a tight embrace.
Charisma : Haha, hey kiddo! I missed you!
I introduce them to my other two friends, and we’re shooting the shit for a while, but it’s mainly me and Connie who are keeping the conversation alive. Every time I focused the conversation towards one of my friends, she would try to grab my attention. Eventually I’m running minor routines to keep the interaction fresh and interesting and we bounce downstairs to get away from everyone; fortunately we find a table in the corner.
After a few minutes she tells me directly, ‘I’m single, I can now do whatever I want!’ As she grins mischievously towards me.
…Did not see that coming.
She beckons I take a seat next to her and we’re vibing incredibly well, as JD tries to keep her friend occupied. Eventually the two go for a smoke, and she stays sitting on my lap for a second and smiles as he hops merrily after her friend.
My friends look at me. Each with a cocked eyebrow.
So it wasn’t my imagination….
They look around the bar and their energy is low and they all decide to leave. Normally I have the bros – before hos mentality (why do I have a feeling Ron is laughing right now?); but they’re pushing me to stay.
The girls come up and are destroyed that we’re leaving and Connie walks away disappointed.
…IMPULSE ACTION…
I reach in my wallet pull a 20 for my bros, since they didn’t have cash on them for a cab, and I walk towards the girls, tapping her on the shoulder. She stares in disbelief.
Things would have escalated from there, we went outside to the smoking pit and was able to open her friend and we were laughing exchanging stories – threw in some DHVs. It seemed they got quiet when I was talking – I enjoyed that.
But I couldn’t kino escalate…I couldn’t isolate. Because it was a 2 set.
…It struck me. I was cocked blocked by the friend; and now I needed a wing more than ever.
But even though the situation didn’t go the way I planned, I feel as if something could come out of this; she’s a super cutie/hottie, and I love the way we vibe. Now I’m going to have to play this by ear and give the illusion of chase (since I’ve heard stories guys chase her, and frankly I don’t want to be one of those guys.)
We leave at the end of the night – having a blast nonetheless, and I beckoned for her to kiss my cheek – and both girls agree at the same time and kiss me on opposite ends. I wave good bye and jump in the cab, smiling to myself on the way home.
…It’s starting to click.
Therefore my foundation of my inner game has finally been poured.
So this Field Report is going to compose of three different nights. Each one with a lesson to teach to exceed in my game. (I can safely say that opening and approaching is no longer my sticking point).
Date: April 4/2009
Location: Rock Stars
Wing(s): Link
Rock Stars....
Unknown territory. Promise of success and adventure; or would this end up being another weekend put to waste? I stare at facebook and my cellphone reading the event/text message from 'D'.
'Hey; we're celebrating a birthday party this weekend. You totally have to come! We're going to rock stars and there's going to be no line and cover. Cake and drinks at my place!'
Was I ready for this? I flipped over my phone and text back, saying I would be there. Impulse action : The night had potential, and at some point I would have to break out of this shell and have fun - or drown in the pool of what is between a PUA and an AFC.
Myself and two close friends of mine, roll up to the buzzer; and the door opens to a friendly, energetic face. My eyes dart across the apartment a something blew me away. There must have been 10-15 people who attended the party; and each one (I shit you not) was drawn back to a wall, separating the guys from the girls. Its what I call the 'Junior High Dance gravitational pull'.
Than something happened. A warm smile crept over my face; a feeling of inner joy over shot my body, and I knew, right than and there:
It was on.
I won't bore you so much on the details; rather than I wasn't acting a Venusian Artist at this point - but as a Social Artist. Greeting everyone, befriending them, connecting; therefore destroying any barrier between them. I was in my element (I love house parties!) and I could tell my friends who came with me, were drawn back. They ended up sitting in the far corner of the couch on the opposite side of the room - as they watch me jump from one group to another.
We eventually bounced the entire group towards Rock Stars, and the night was a foot. It took me a while to find my groove, and I must have ran into at least 12 other PUAs. I saw Wizard from a side glance as I was scoping the place, as he was running isolation/comfort game with a HB 9 (Congrats on solid game by the way); I ran into Echo and Arjun, who than introduced me to their group. In the back of my head I began to panic - there was going to be a lot of competition.
I realized, that at this point, it no longer mattered. There will always be 'competition'. Whether they're chodes, AFCs or PUAs; game will never be handed to you - you need to work for it and truly sell yourself. So I ran a quick practice set to get me into the groove of just talking out loud to a girl (which I found is necessary to warm up and get the ball moving). Than I ran into a new target.
She was one of the girls who showed up to the party, rolling in with a late entrance with a personality of a brick house. It seemed nothing would get through to her at the time. But I realized that was all part of her ‘Bitch Shield’.
After brief introductions with Benim (another PUA), I turn around and walk straight to her with a look of disbelief.
Charisma: 'Hi, you realize that it's incredibly rude to cut someone off in mid conversation.'
Jen: 'What!?'
Charisma: 'I mean, sure we got introductions out of the way, but where does that get you? Nowhere. I left the conversation totally in your hands, and well - *smirk* it totally went downhill from there. So I'm taking over right now.'
Jen: *her eyes light up and the body language changes from close to open*
Charisma: 'Hi...I'm Charisma, and I'm actually French.'
Jen: 'NO WAY! I'm Belgium!'
Charisma: 'Oh god, that means you're a push over right?'
Jen: *shocked*
Charisma: 'Don't mean to bust out the historical facts....'
Jen: 'I LOVE history!'
Charisma: '- and back to me...didn't you guys get walked all over by the Germans in the World Wars....twice?'
- playful bantering from there. We discussed places to travel, what she had going for her other than her looks. Meanwhile, I'm locking in - without even thinking about it, and me and this girl and really connecting. That is....until I get cocked blocked by Benim. (I know it wasn't intentional)
Benim: 'Hey, so how do you guys know each other?'
...
He steps into my set - and now when I think about it, I should have totally AMOGed him for coming into my set without my invitation. I didn't need a wing, I was isolated with my set already. So instead I exchange greetings, and he kinda takes it from there. I go to search my friends and end up losing Jen in the process.
But, Link introduced me to this other 2 set of gorgeous women. (one was a 9.5 in my books. Tattoos, piercing, black hair....oh, did I mention she was a Suicide Girl?)
Nothing really to note for the conversation at the bar, but Link was able to bounce the girls back to his place to a 'sauna party' (best thing ever by the way). At this point I did run into my target again, and number closed her – trying to bounce her with us, but that never fell through.
Back at Link’s place, we’re both running game, having a few drinks and laughs. Telling stories and having a overall good time. At one point, I’m in my underwear coming out of the homemade sauna, feeling more confident than I’ve been in a long time. The interaction taught me an important lesson: That I don’t need props or tools to do well in a set. I am now comfortable with my body, spirit and mind; that I can run game on a girl who I consider almost to be a fucken 10 – in my underwear!!!!!
They turned out to be pretty cool people, and though I didn’t walk away with a close, I at least made two new cool female friends. Who now; I can easily incorporate into new DHV stories.
Date: April 10/2009
Location: Empire
Wing(s): Saint and Shelagh (pivot)
I won’t go into over abundant detail; other what I considered to be noted in this Field Report. I’m running short on time, so I apologize.
We head off to Empire to celebrate Vic’s success as a Bartender – wicked job and mad props for the invite; and as a result we had instant access to VIP. I ran a set in the first 4 minutes I was in the club – which was dead to begin with, since we just arrived at approx 10pm; so things we’re slowly picking up.
Ran the black nails opener; and was able to run a little bit of story telling. The 2 set was seated, and I needed to lock in, but never crossed my mind, till I walked away from it. But the energy in my body was fuelling me, with a minor success to back it up.
We head back to VIP after scoping the floor, where one of my friends introduced us to a birthday party – the girls seemed uninterested and not very attentive. I almost attacked myself again, blaming the situation on myself; when suddenly I noted to come back to this set and re-run it again and leave on somewhat of a high note.
Later throughout the night, Shelagh was hinting she wanted to interact and mingle with people. So I tell her to walk with me, arm and arm, back to the birthday set and I began taking control of it.
Charisma: Okay guys, on first impression, you’re introductions kinda sucked. So we’re doing this again. I’m Charisma by the way – pleasure to meet all of you, and this is Shelagh – one of the coolest people I know.
The set blows open – and I’m juggling a 4 set standing up and out of the group I select a target.
Charisma: Hey, let me see your hands for a second. Good girl. Now stand up – I’m going to show you something cool….*spins and takes her place on her seat*. Haha, I totally stole your seat!
HB 8.5: I would have given it to you if you asked! *laughing*
Charisma: Wow! Really? You get plus 5 cool points for generosity! *hugs*
Things were going well, and though I was somewhat stuttering, I was ploughing through, since I was locked in – and I didn’t want to walk away empty handed. Than Saint pulled up…
Normally, I would have needed his assistance; but the problem was my 4 set changed to a 2 set, and I already had Shelagh as a wing. I didn’t need another one. So that move threw me off. I know he had the best intention and he was trying to add value to my character – but I wanted to take that opportunity just before he got in, to run some kino. I probably still could have, but I got nervous since normally I don’t get this far in a set.
As a result I ejected, and somewhat disappointed that I left, I was happy to see that my game has been moving forward – especially after a three weeks (if not more) dry spell of not opening or approaching.
Specifically for wings: Run the ‘Hey have you seen – person - ?’ line. We’ll flag you in if we need you; but that comes with practice, and I do appreciate the help guys. I really do. Just let me fly solo sometimes ^_-.
Other than that, there really wasn’t anything else I can record that really made a dramatic impact on me.
Date: April 11/2008
Location: The Bank
Wing(s): None…This is where I would needed one.
Text message, after text message, phone call – and another text…
‘Are you here yet?!’ It’s Connie; and she’s getting anxious.
I laugh to myself on the LRT, making my way towards the bar. It has gotten to the point where in my social circles; people rely on me to bring interest to the night, and I’m not one to disappoint.
I arrive at the bank; and I see Connie with one of her female friends who’s an attractive woman. I looked at Connie – and though she’s dramatically shorter than me, she’s looking incredibly good tonight.
I walk in, making a late and dramatic entrance. I walk towards the group and she stares at me for a second with nothing to offer, so I hold my arms up for a hug, and she walks towards me with a smile, and suddenly I spin around and hug her friend and introduce myself. She stands there shocked, and I laugh and pull her into a tight embrace.
Charisma : Haha, hey kiddo! I missed you!
I introduce them to my other two friends, and we’re shooting the shit for a while, but it’s mainly me and Connie who are keeping the conversation alive. Every time I focused the conversation towards one of my friends, she would try to grab my attention. Eventually I’m running minor routines to keep the interaction fresh and interesting and we bounce downstairs to get away from everyone; fortunately we find a table in the corner.
After a few minutes she tells me directly, ‘I’m single, I can now do whatever I want!’ As she grins mischievously towards me.
…Did not see that coming.
She beckons I take a seat next to her and we’re vibing incredibly well, as JD tries to keep her friend occupied. Eventually the two go for a smoke, and she stays sitting on my lap for a second and smiles as he hops merrily after her friend.
My friends look at me. Each with a cocked eyebrow.
So it wasn’t my imagination….
They look around the bar and their energy is low and they all decide to leave. Normally I have the bros – before hos mentality (why do I have a feeling Ron is laughing right now?); but they’re pushing me to stay.
The girls come up and are destroyed that we’re leaving and Connie walks away disappointed.
…IMPULSE ACTION…
I reach in my wallet pull a 20 for my bros, since they didn’t have cash on them for a cab, and I walk towards the girls, tapping her on the shoulder. She stares in disbelief.
Things would have escalated from there, we went outside to the smoking pit and was able to open her friend and we were laughing exchanging stories – threw in some DHVs. It seemed they got quiet when I was talking – I enjoyed that.
But I couldn’t kino escalate…I couldn’t isolate. Because it was a 2 set.
…It struck me. I was cocked blocked by the friend; and now I needed a wing more than ever.
But even though the situation didn’t go the way I planned, I feel as if something could come out of this; she’s a super cutie/hottie, and I love the way we vibe. Now I’m going to have to play this by ear and give the illusion of chase (since I’ve heard stories guys chase her, and frankly I don’t want to be one of those guys.)
We leave at the end of the night – having a blast nonetheless, and I beckoned for her to kiss my cheek – and both girls agree at the same time and kiss me on opposite ends. I wave good bye and jump in the cab, smiling to myself on the way home.
…It’s starting to click.
Collection of Field Reports
I'm sitting at the end of the couch, starring at some familiar faces and some new ones. The room is tightly packed with Future Pickup Artists, the energy is high, my ears attentive to what Monkey was presenting during the meeting. Laughter fills the room and it is a good time to be held by all, with tons of promise and information to be passed on.
Light bulb after light bulb! Even after my bootcamp in Toronto; I still find there's so much more to digest, so much more that I need to absorb and put into my daily life. And I can feel my mind racing - throwing in what advice I have based on my own personal experience. I live for this - social interactions, is truly my calling. I know...I want to do this for a living.
So we all break into separate groups. Myself, Saint and Karma break into one group, scouring the Whyte Avenue Night life, while the rest of the crew (of what seemed like easily 20 different PUAs) head towards Union. At this point I'm getting bored of that bar - the same music, the same vibe - and I thirst for something different. So we jump in our vehicles after pumping our energy states to a new level and collecting some new numbers (Number closed y'all!
) and we head towards Suite 69.
The night life on Whyte really isn't what it's cracked to be on a Thursday night, but we still managed to make the best of it. I walk in, eyeing two sets the first moment I walk in (the only two sets), which I spend no time hesitating. I approach a 2 set:
Charisma: "Hey guys; whats you're first impression of black nails?'
Set: Responds
Charisma: 'Okay, Get this! Me and my friends got suit up for new city; which we totally played the part to the extreme! Eye linear, black nail polish, the whole works. We'll we get on the elevator going down from my place; and this old lady gets on and stares at me accusingly and says...Are you like a Satan worshiper?! Which case, me being the lovable smart ass I am respond....We'll we are going down aren't we?' Which case the laugh and get energetic. Than with my head over the shoulder as if forgetting something, and ask about the night life on a Thursday.
Hb Target : 'There's not much for Night life on a Thursday unfortunately...' hands us a ticket for Suite 69 promotion and just realized I was running Hired Guns.
We than headed off to Wolly's, and ran another set, where I managed to lock in successfully and run the best friend's test. They seemed to respond rather well, and I was getting some IOI's from the one girl (this set was more for practice, than for actual gaming worth...but being social!) and we laugh and fluff for a bit.
We than head to Houstons to try our luck, only to be drastically disappointed. Saint than runs a 5 seated set, and I run game on the waitress as she comes by.
HiredGun: Can I get you anything?
Charisma: Nah - we're good for now, but since you're here, I'm going to get your input on something. See my friend right there? *points at Saint* We're having this debate about who lies more....men or women? He's so heavily focused it's women, and I think it's men. (go into root and have fun with the waitress)
HiredGun: Haha, well it really depends on the person...
Charisma: Well, I think I should let you do your thing for a while, don't want your boss to be all in your face, haha.
HiredGun: Ya, haha (sarcastic) It's so busy right now! (she than walks off)
Later on we than stop by Union to meet up with some of the boys, and it was a good experience; but not really much to comment on. Ran a few openers, befriended one girl and was very animated and we got along pretty well (PUA female friend). But as for locking in wise, kino, or even sets that stood out in my mind, were few at best. I managed to still leave with a healthy mind set, knowing fair well I did excellent and managed to have one good lock in and blew some minor issues I had with my mentality.
I will admit this, having 20 PUAs in one bar, was perhaps the most intimidating thing of all. I saw my sets I wanted to open, approached again and again and again. By the time I had a chance, the sets would barely respond, but thanks to a gambit that Saint taught me (*snaps fingers* 'Hey...party is over here...Jesus Christ!') allowed me to press through the rough patches and allow me to hold my own for a bit and deal with ADD crazy girls.
But it was a good night, and I had alot of fun - and looking forward to Stripper Game tomorrow...Which should prove interesting.
Wish me luck!
Set comes to an end.
Light bulb after light bulb! Even after my bootcamp in Toronto; I still find there's so much more to digest, so much more that I need to absorb and put into my daily life. And I can feel my mind racing - throwing in what advice I have based on my own personal experience. I live for this - social interactions, is truly my calling. I know...I want to do this for a living.
So we all break into separate groups. Myself, Saint and Karma break into one group, scouring the Whyte Avenue Night life, while the rest of the crew (of what seemed like easily 20 different PUAs) head towards Union. At this point I'm getting bored of that bar - the same music, the same vibe - and I thirst for something different. So we jump in our vehicles after pumping our energy states to a new level and collecting some new numbers (Number closed y'all!
) and we head towards Suite 69. The night life on Whyte really isn't what it's cracked to be on a Thursday night, but we still managed to make the best of it. I walk in, eyeing two sets the first moment I walk in (the only two sets), which I spend no time hesitating. I approach a 2 set:
Charisma: "Hey guys; whats you're first impression of black nails?'
Set: Responds
Charisma: 'Okay, Get this! Me and my friends got suit up for new city; which we totally played the part to the extreme! Eye linear, black nail polish, the whole works. We'll we get on the elevator going down from my place; and this old lady gets on and stares at me accusingly and says...Are you like a Satan worshiper?! Which case, me being the lovable smart ass I am respond....We'll we are going down aren't we?' Which case the laugh and get energetic. Than with my head over the shoulder as if forgetting something, and ask about the night life on a Thursday.
Hb Target : 'There's not much for Night life on a Thursday unfortunately...' hands us a ticket for Suite 69 promotion and just realized I was running Hired Guns.
We than headed off to Wolly's, and ran another set, where I managed to lock in successfully and run the best friend's test. They seemed to respond rather well, and I was getting some IOI's from the one girl (this set was more for practice, than for actual gaming worth...but being social!) and we laugh and fluff for a bit.
We than head to Houstons to try our luck, only to be drastically disappointed. Saint than runs a 5 seated set, and I run game on the waitress as she comes by.
HiredGun: Can I get you anything?
Charisma: Nah - we're good for now, but since you're here, I'm going to get your input on something. See my friend right there? *points at Saint* We're having this debate about who lies more....men or women? He's so heavily focused it's women, and I think it's men. (go into root and have fun with the waitress)
HiredGun: Haha, well it really depends on the person...
Charisma: Well, I think I should let you do your thing for a while, don't want your boss to be all in your face, haha.
HiredGun: Ya, haha (sarcastic) It's so busy right now! (she than walks off)
Later on we than stop by Union to meet up with some of the boys, and it was a good experience; but not really much to comment on. Ran a few openers, befriended one girl and was very animated and we got along pretty well (PUA female friend). But as for locking in wise, kino, or even sets that stood out in my mind, were few at best. I managed to still leave with a healthy mind set, knowing fair well I did excellent and managed to have one good lock in and blew some minor issues I had with my mentality.
I will admit this, having 20 PUAs in one bar, was perhaps the most intimidating thing of all. I saw my sets I wanted to open, approached again and again and again. By the time I had a chance, the sets would barely respond, but thanks to a gambit that Saint taught me (*snaps fingers* 'Hey...party is over here...Jesus Christ!') allowed me to press through the rough patches and allow me to hold my own for a bit and deal with ADD crazy girls.
But it was a good night, and I had alot of fun - and looking forward to Stripper Game tomorrow...Which should prove interesting.
Wish me luck!
Set comes to an end.
Collection of Field Reports
4real really inspired me to write this down in the FR section.
So my background story is as follows:
I head off to Cook County Saloon down on whyte avenue to meet up with a close friend of mine who left to go to Brazil for some missionary objective; rock on for her. So we celebrated her going away party by being social and blasting the dance floor into tiny little pieces. Well - during this time I was opening a few sets, being sociable and fun; winging with my roommate of all people (who always hated The Game; yes, I am open about it - but we seem to flow off well with each other, and he even admitted it changed me in a lot of ways), were the center of attention that night.
During this time I met Caitlin, who was part of the group I was partying with, and exchanged minor greetings. (there was a big group of us of at least 14 people). Now I didn't run any initial game on her. Which led me to be surprised the following day when she messaged me over facebook - admitting she was severely attracted to me. (I would like to point out this was my roommate's girl of choice he wanted to approach....ha ha...Game doesn't work my ass).
So we shot the shit for a while, exchanged numbers, did some playful bantering and made plans to go out to the Olive Garden as a day 2.
We really connected very well, and had a lot of fun that night - even getting a table to join us in a short conversation of playful nature before we left. To me this was a DHV in my favor; cause now she can see that I'm socially acquainted. We than decide to make plans for a Day 3 at her place to watch some old classic Disney Movies (Aladdin baby!).
Now this is where things start getting weird.
I meet her folks (found out she lives with her folks), who we're pretty cool, but at the sometime border line of awkward. I felt slightly uncomfortable in their basement with my girl in my arms, and after a while we start talking about small things (bantering and cocky one liners didn't work well in my favor...I over used them) Eventually I felt this need to kiss her. I knew if I didn't, I would quickly be thrown into the friend zone - past experience has shown me otherwise.
So I ran the 'Do you want to kiss me?' routine; which led to loss of the moment, cause it threw her off. So I wasn't able to close that 6 inch gap. Than she drove me back to my place, and I knew - if I didn't close the gap here and now - it would be game over. So I made the move - which led to two pecks.
Then we went out to new city - which led to a night that was lame and boring, but we managed to have fun outside for 45 minutes, before we all went our separate ways. I did however, manage to make out a little bit with my girl - but there seemed to lack a little bit of a spark; at the time I didn't realize it.
Last night we wanted to do something, and we ended up going for some hot apple cider at Second Cup - trying to change the location with the girl, and do some bouncing (which is where I think I failed the most). Showed her some of my vulnerable side, was more cool and collected, and ran some minor kino hand holding. Went well I thought, until we got back to my place.
Where a movie was put in the entire time (and I have a reputation of not watching movies the whole way through with a girl - indicator number 2) and barely any contact. So as she left for the end of the day, having work following later that morning; i offered to walk her to the door downstairs of my apartment. Which came the next move that was either going to make or break the interaction:
I was talking with Saint, about my sticking points and situation, and we ended up talking about going 'caveman'. He recalled a part in The Game where some Master PUA would take girls by the throat out of the blue - and hit them against the wall, let go and make out with them right than and there. And it had come to my attention I'm not bold enough, and Matador was trying to tell me this in Toronto. So while we were going down the elevator, I tried pulling this move; which didn't go well. It was one of her zones on her body that threw up her defenses (of course it would...damn it). So it led me to fall back apologizing, lost in what I should do next, and said goodbye to her.
As I was hitting the elevator button to go back up, she jammed the door, and made out with me - which threw me further into the loop (what is with this girl?!?!), and I was thrown back in confusion. She than practically skipped out of the door, and I was left hold the door open in blank bewilderment. At this point I figured things were finally picking up; till just a moment ago through writing this FR, something happened.
I received a text stating : 'i was thinking about it alot last night, and i really wish there was more between us, but don't feel it
' Which I can agree with, since I didn't feel that 'moment' that chemistry that really bonds two people together - which is oddly the same problem that 4real has with his target right now. So to me, I don't think this will be the last time we'll see this situation again.
So I knew it was Game Over, and she stated she still wants to be friends, as cliche as that sounds. Which is fine in my books, because I'm not entirely disappointed or angry, because I know I at least tried to make a difference. And from the interaction I had with her; I managed to grow a little bit more as a human being, and I don't regret anything I've done.
Would I have done it different? Of course, but for now, I have to re-focus on my theory, since I haven't read or touched any for a long period of time.
So back into the Game; sticking a quarter in and start back at Level 1 - it's time to beat the all time high score...
PS
I would appreciate the feedback and references you can pass on. I need some help boys/girl, lets see what we can do with our heads put together to rid of the 'Too Gamey' approach I have when opening sets, and my stuttering stops when escalating kino.
So my background story is as follows:
I head off to Cook County Saloon down on whyte avenue to meet up with a close friend of mine who left to go to Brazil for some missionary objective; rock on for her. So we celebrated her going away party by being social and blasting the dance floor into tiny little pieces. Well - during this time I was opening a few sets, being sociable and fun; winging with my roommate of all people (who always hated The Game; yes, I am open about it - but we seem to flow off well with each other, and he even admitted it changed me in a lot of ways), were the center of attention that night.
During this time I met Caitlin, who was part of the group I was partying with, and exchanged minor greetings. (there was a big group of us of at least 14 people). Now I didn't run any initial game on her. Which led me to be surprised the following day when she messaged me over facebook - admitting she was severely attracted to me. (I would like to point out this was my roommate's girl of choice he wanted to approach....ha ha...Game doesn't work my ass).
So we shot the shit for a while, exchanged numbers, did some playful bantering and made plans to go out to the Olive Garden as a day 2.
We really connected very well, and had a lot of fun that night - even getting a table to join us in a short conversation of playful nature before we left. To me this was a DHV in my favor; cause now she can see that I'm socially acquainted. We than decide to make plans for a Day 3 at her place to watch some old classic Disney Movies (Aladdin baby!).
Now this is where things start getting weird.
I meet her folks (found out she lives with her folks), who we're pretty cool, but at the sometime border line of awkward. I felt slightly uncomfortable in their basement with my girl in my arms, and after a while we start talking about small things (bantering and cocky one liners didn't work well in my favor...I over used them) Eventually I felt this need to kiss her. I knew if I didn't, I would quickly be thrown into the friend zone - past experience has shown me otherwise.
So I ran the 'Do you want to kiss me?' routine; which led to loss of the moment, cause it threw her off. So I wasn't able to close that 6 inch gap. Than she drove me back to my place, and I knew - if I didn't close the gap here and now - it would be game over. So I made the move - which led to two pecks.
Then we went out to new city - which led to a night that was lame and boring, but we managed to have fun outside for 45 minutes, before we all went our separate ways. I did however, manage to make out a little bit with my girl - but there seemed to lack a little bit of a spark; at the time I didn't realize it.
Last night we wanted to do something, and we ended up going for some hot apple cider at Second Cup - trying to change the location with the girl, and do some bouncing (which is where I think I failed the most). Showed her some of my vulnerable side, was more cool and collected, and ran some minor kino hand holding. Went well I thought, until we got back to my place.
Where a movie was put in the entire time (and I have a reputation of not watching movies the whole way through with a girl - indicator number 2) and barely any contact. So as she left for the end of the day, having work following later that morning; i offered to walk her to the door downstairs of my apartment. Which came the next move that was either going to make or break the interaction:
I was talking with Saint, about my sticking points and situation, and we ended up talking about going 'caveman'. He recalled a part in The Game where some Master PUA would take girls by the throat out of the blue - and hit them against the wall, let go and make out with them right than and there. And it had come to my attention I'm not bold enough, and Matador was trying to tell me this in Toronto. So while we were going down the elevator, I tried pulling this move; which didn't go well. It was one of her zones on her body that threw up her defenses (of course it would...damn it). So it led me to fall back apologizing, lost in what I should do next, and said goodbye to her.
As I was hitting the elevator button to go back up, she jammed the door, and made out with me - which threw me further into the loop (what is with this girl?!?!), and I was thrown back in confusion. She than practically skipped out of the door, and I was left hold the door open in blank bewilderment. At this point I figured things were finally picking up; till just a moment ago through writing this FR, something happened.
I received a text stating : 'i was thinking about it alot last night, and i really wish there was more between us, but don't feel it
' Which I can agree with, since I didn't feel that 'moment' that chemistry that really bonds two people together - which is oddly the same problem that 4real has with his target right now. So to me, I don't think this will be the last time we'll see this situation again.So I knew it was Game Over, and she stated she still wants to be friends, as cliche as that sounds. Which is fine in my books, because I'm not entirely disappointed or angry, because I know I at least tried to make a difference. And from the interaction I had with her; I managed to grow a little bit more as a human being, and I don't regret anything I've done.
Would I have done it different? Of course, but for now, I have to re-focus on my theory, since I haven't read or touched any for a long period of time.
So back into the Game; sticking a quarter in and start back at Level 1 - it's time to beat the all time high score...
PS
I would appreciate the feedback and references you can pass on. I need some help boys/girl, lets see what we can do with our heads put together to rid of the 'Too Gamey' approach I have when opening sets, and my stuttering stops when escalating kino.
Collection of Field Reports
08 January 2009
Location : Union
Night : Thursday
Group : puaedmonton
The Good :
1) Opened three sets; even though I lacked the drive and enthusiasm after the first bad approach
2) Watched Ron Burgandy in action, and I truly believe that if you do go with your first impulse/gut instinct, you will succeed more than over thinking a situation
3) Was with good company
The Bad:
1) Blamed my in-success on the lack of sets. True most targets were hit on 20 times that night, but I should have the mentality that I am truly the prize, and compared to me; these men have nothing to offer - so approach!
2) Went with the mentality to open a set number of sets, rather going in with a fun emotional state of mind. I always feel that I need to impress everyone, and when I don't perform, I feel like I let everyone down - especially myself. This is a horrible mentality to take and slows down my progression dramatically.
3) I let one bad set ruin my night. I began thinking situations where different sets would react the same.
4) Over-usage of indirect openers. Matador pointed out a long time ago - that there is a time to use them and a time to cast them aside. I have to stop latching on to these one liners like life preservers. I need to rely more on myself and get that confidence built inside me that I am a Charismatic Social Human Being.
5) My frame of mind was set to an all new extreme low. It showed through my body language, and the same thoughts of, 'Why bother?' plagued my mind. Unacceptable.
How to Improve:
* Focus on Inner Game for this weekend, read up on some material
* Do something physical, social and mental before going out
* Live in the 'Now' and not in the 'maybe tomorrow' setting
* Approach for the sakes of approaching, and not to close. Sometimes closes don't mean anything if you're not genuine.
Location : Union
Night : Thursday
Group : puaedmonton
The Good :
1) Opened three sets; even though I lacked the drive and enthusiasm after the first bad approach
2) Watched Ron Burgandy in action, and I truly believe that if you do go with your first impulse/gut instinct, you will succeed more than over thinking a situation
3) Was with good company
The Bad:
1) Blamed my in-success on the lack of sets. True most targets were hit on 20 times that night, but I should have the mentality that I am truly the prize, and compared to me; these men have nothing to offer - so approach!
2) Went with the mentality to open a set number of sets, rather going in with a fun emotional state of mind. I always feel that I need to impress everyone, and when I don't perform, I feel like I let everyone down - especially myself. This is a horrible mentality to take and slows down my progression dramatically.
3) I let one bad set ruin my night. I began thinking situations where different sets would react the same.
4) Over-usage of indirect openers. Matador pointed out a long time ago - that there is a time to use them and a time to cast them aside. I have to stop latching on to these one liners like life preservers. I need to rely more on myself and get that confidence built inside me that I am a Charismatic Social Human Being.
5) My frame of mind was set to an all new extreme low. It showed through my body language, and the same thoughts of, 'Why bother?' plagued my mind. Unacceptable.
How to Improve:
* Focus on Inner Game for this weekend, read up on some material
* Do something physical, social and mental before going out
* Live in the 'Now' and not in the 'maybe tomorrow' setting
* Approach for the sakes of approaching, and not to close. Sometimes closes don't mean anything if you're not genuine.
Collection of Field Reports
Charisma the Venusian Artist – Mastering the Mystery Method Post # 6
Sunday, 30th November 2008
Game: Day
Field: Whyte Ave and beyond
Wingmen: Selfish Gene
The phone rings, and a text reads ‘I have an approach exercise for you’. I stare at my phone with a smile. It’s from Selfish Gene. We meet up at city centre, and its good to see a friendly face after the shitty day I had on Saturday (don’t ask, work got the best of me – shit happens).
I’m glad to see that some of these faces are becoming more than PUAs now. A lot of them are becoming close and personal friends, who now have identities and I feel I can actually wing and vibe with fluently! (And that’s what it’s all about!)
We discuss some stories and we laugh and chill for a while as we drive around Whyte ave on the prowl at 5pm on a Sunday afternoon. Prior to this, I opened one set in the mall (set dry – like you wouldn’t believe….I’ve gotten way to comfortable with West Edmonton Mall; so I had to at least warm up with a hired gun, who was a HB 6 at the very best). The opener came out sluggish, but rather than being mad at myself on not hooking, I was relieved to at least try and push myself with no other PUAs around me (I’m slowly adapting it as part of me and not a switch).
After reaching the Hudson’s at the campus (which had no sets), we walked around Whyte ave, where I opened a two set at a music store who I caught through the window and abided by the 3 second rule, and immediately approached. They were fun, and I used the song opener/gambit, and actually negged them playfully once using the owner of the store to find the answer for me, ‘Come on guys….dead or alive…jeez, lol’ which made the interaction natural and fun. There was a lot of high energy and I left with a positive mindset.
We than ran some sets at the London Drugs while trying to wing each other (once again, stepping outside of a comfort zone, since I never winged with someone on my own choice before). The set was casual and it was a Hired gun, but the target did manage to get a few of her friends to get involved which made things interesting. But we both ran dry and walked away content.
I than ran a brief opener on the cashier who enjoyed the interaction (I like seeing people smile and get animated and involved…) I feel truly like I was bringing people into my reality.
Ran another set while playing pool with Selfish Gene with a waitress, and she seemed very cute and fun. And I would have enjoyed pressing a little bit harder in the set. I should have run some kino – maybe a game of some kind.
The only regret I had that night, was not opening a lone wolf texting on her phone on the way out. I was struggling with myself by the exit for four seconds, trying to turn around an approach her.
Alas I didn’t. So I came to a conclusion I rather see what happens than live with the ‘what ifs’. Opening a set and at least trying makes me feel good, versus not opening at all. It’s contrary to my Charismatic Nature () to not approach and be social able. So I am now taking that as part of my identity and avatar.
But I was glad I spent my day out and engaging people than staying at home clicking my life away on facebook.
Good times!
- Charisma
Sunday, 30th November 2008
Game: Day
Field: Whyte Ave and beyond
Wingmen: Selfish Gene
The phone rings, and a text reads ‘I have an approach exercise for you’. I stare at my phone with a smile. It’s from Selfish Gene. We meet up at city centre, and its good to see a friendly face after the shitty day I had on Saturday (don’t ask, work got the best of me – shit happens).
I’m glad to see that some of these faces are becoming more than PUAs now. A lot of them are becoming close and personal friends, who now have identities and I feel I can actually wing and vibe with fluently! (And that’s what it’s all about!)
We discuss some stories and we laugh and chill for a while as we drive around Whyte ave on the prowl at 5pm on a Sunday afternoon. Prior to this, I opened one set in the mall (set dry – like you wouldn’t believe….I’ve gotten way to comfortable with West Edmonton Mall; so I had to at least warm up with a hired gun, who was a HB 6 at the very best). The opener came out sluggish, but rather than being mad at myself on not hooking, I was relieved to at least try and push myself with no other PUAs around me (I’m slowly adapting it as part of me and not a switch).
After reaching the Hudson’s at the campus (which had no sets), we walked around Whyte ave, where I opened a two set at a music store who I caught through the window and abided by the 3 second rule, and immediately approached. They were fun, and I used the song opener/gambit, and actually negged them playfully once using the owner of the store to find the answer for me, ‘Come on guys….dead or alive…jeez, lol’ which made the interaction natural and fun. There was a lot of high energy and I left with a positive mindset.
We than ran some sets at the London Drugs while trying to wing each other (once again, stepping outside of a comfort zone, since I never winged with someone on my own choice before). The set was casual and it was a Hired gun, but the target did manage to get a few of her friends to get involved which made things interesting. But we both ran dry and walked away content.
I than ran a brief opener on the cashier who enjoyed the interaction (I like seeing people smile and get animated and involved…) I feel truly like I was bringing people into my reality.
Ran another set while playing pool with Selfish Gene with a waitress, and she seemed very cute and fun. And I would have enjoyed pressing a little bit harder in the set. I should have run some kino – maybe a game of some kind.
The only regret I had that night, was not opening a lone wolf texting on her phone on the way out. I was struggling with myself by the exit for four seconds, trying to turn around an approach her.
Alas I didn’t. So I came to a conclusion I rather see what happens than live with the ‘what ifs’. Opening a set and at least trying makes me feel good, versus not opening at all. It’s contrary to my Charismatic Nature () to not approach and be social able. So I am now taking that as part of my identity and avatar.
But I was glad I spent my day out and engaging people than staying at home clicking my life away on facebook.
Good times!
- Charisma
Collection of Field Reports
Charisma the Venusian Artist – Mastering the Mystery Method Post # 5
Friday, 28th November 2008
Game: Night
Field: The Union (two floors open)
Wingmen: Link, FutureFast, 4Real, Djmex, S-J, Picasso, Trent, RonBurgundy, SelfishGene and much much more!
The night started off with a nightly meeting at the library for The Edmonton Winter Bird Watching Committee. (Remember that the most important note to be taken from the meeting to watch out for the peacock!)
I met some new faces, and was honoured to meet some of the PUAs who have built quite the reputation over the forum and seeing some of them in the field. I was blown away how laid back these guys were and human they really were. (For whatever reason I was expecting to be judged the moment I went out; but it was totally the opposite!)
The best thing about the meeting is that I finally stumbled on the community I wanted to be part of for so long. Now I have a resource to push myself to the extreme. No more excuses of not finding a crew to go out with. And I’m sure that a lot of these gents (and woman) will be useful when it comes to constructive criticism. Not to mention, become an interesting addition to my social circle.
*grins* I hope to get into some crazy adventures with you guys!
After the meeting we went directly off to the Union and ran some sets as a giant crowd. I don’t think the club saw what was coming!
I didn’t do nearly as well as I did the night prior. I placed the bar too high, and didn’t maintain a playful mindset. I was too focused on the outcome than being fun and relaxed. (Sticking point which I believe was conquered on Sunday….more to follow).
Though all of my sets were severely blown out; I did manage to get one hook at one point through the use of an opener done through body language that I picked up from Matador. (80% of communication is done through Body Language). She called me an ‘asshole’ at one point, but I smiled and replied, ‘True….but I’m fun!’ which immediately won her over.
We talked a little bit and than she implied she wanted to go for a smoke. Isolating her outside of the bar, with her arm around mine, I made my way outside. She did run into some of her friends (I swear every girl has ADD, and I should have known it wouldn’t be that easy). I did take this opportunity to run to 4real and Djmex and shot the shit with them for a bit. She than later found me again and we returned back inside, locking her into a seat beside the dance floor.
I than tried to introduce her to 4real; and increase my social value – and it turns out they went to the same school. The set than later went downhill, because she was so primarily focused on talking in German, that I just left her off to the side, disappointed on how the set turned out.
The night than came to a dramatic close as RonBurgundy needed to leave with Crusade, SJ and Picasso. I tagged along – but now I regret doing so.
I need to push to the very end – or at least close to it. I could have probably ran some good sets if I picked myself up.
That’s why I need that extra push sometimes. But alas – it was another sticking point to overcome.
The lifestyle of a PUA.
- Charisma
Friday, 28th November 2008
Game: Night
Field: The Union (two floors open)
Wingmen: Link, FutureFast, 4Real, Djmex, S-J, Picasso, Trent, RonBurgundy, SelfishGene and much much more!
The night started off with a nightly meeting at the library for The Edmonton Winter Bird Watching Committee. (Remember that the most important note to be taken from the meeting to watch out for the peacock!)
I met some new faces, and was honoured to meet some of the PUAs who have built quite the reputation over the forum and seeing some of them in the field. I was blown away how laid back these guys were and human they really were. (For whatever reason I was expecting to be judged the moment I went out; but it was totally the opposite!)
The best thing about the meeting is that I finally stumbled on the community I wanted to be part of for so long. Now I have a resource to push myself to the extreme. No more excuses of not finding a crew to go out with. And I’m sure that a lot of these gents (and woman) will be useful when it comes to constructive criticism. Not to mention, become an interesting addition to my social circle.
*grins* I hope to get into some crazy adventures with you guys!
After the meeting we went directly off to the Union and ran some sets as a giant crowd. I don’t think the club saw what was coming!
I didn’t do nearly as well as I did the night prior. I placed the bar too high, and didn’t maintain a playful mindset. I was too focused on the outcome than being fun and relaxed. (Sticking point which I believe was conquered on Sunday….more to follow).
Though all of my sets were severely blown out; I did manage to get one hook at one point through the use of an opener done through body language that I picked up from Matador. (80% of communication is done through Body Language). She called me an ‘asshole’ at one point, but I smiled and replied, ‘True….but I’m fun!’ which immediately won her over.
We talked a little bit and than she implied she wanted to go for a smoke. Isolating her outside of the bar, with her arm around mine, I made my way outside. She did run into some of her friends (I swear every girl has ADD, and I should have known it wouldn’t be that easy). I did take this opportunity to run to 4real and Djmex and shot the shit with them for a bit. She than later found me again and we returned back inside, locking her into a seat beside the dance floor.
I than tried to introduce her to 4real; and increase my social value – and it turns out they went to the same school. The set than later went downhill, because she was so primarily focused on talking in German, that I just left her off to the side, disappointed on how the set turned out.
The night than came to a dramatic close as RonBurgundy needed to leave with Crusade, SJ and Picasso. I tagged along – but now I regret doing so.
I need to push to the very end – or at least close to it. I could have probably ran some good sets if I picked myself up.
That’s why I need that extra push sometimes. But alas – it was another sticking point to overcome.
The lifestyle of a PUA.
- Charisma
Collection of Field Reports
Charisma the Venusian Artist – Mastering the Mystery Method Post # 3
Saturday, November 1st 2008
Game: Night
Field: The Druid/New City
Wingmen: SeflishGene, Domonik, ChrisVD
Halloween Mayhem - Nov 1st.
First of all - I would like to thank Domonik and SelfishGene for showing up and accompanying in one of the funniest times I had in a long time.
I'm going to keep this field report mildly short and to the point. I went out with a few friends, my girl and a few PUAs who brought their girls as well. We had fun and bounced from The Druid to oddly enough New City - which was absolutely a fantastic time! There were some epic costumes and everyone was just in social state. Which made opening sets a breeze.
I was approached by a few sets who dared to try to open me (its actually amusing to watch from the other point of view and see what pattern they follow). I had a few facebook closes - not so much for trying to push day 2 game, but more so to expand my social circle and have a few more female friends in my life. (The house party i had was an indicator that there's way too much sausage in my circle.)
ChrisVD managed to come along as well - whether or not he's on this site, I'll find out. At first he was overwhelmed by AA (its not easy opening sets when you're the fifth wheel...) but I promised to open sets with him, so this way we keep the vibe of approaching alive.
After a few friendly pushes into set, ChrisVD managed to do very well. Sets he didn't approach and I pointed out, would lead me to go into the set and run the material and routines.
While maintaining a positive vibe and energy, I managed to shoot the shit with what seemed like over 20 people and befriended practically everyone around me. Guys would come out and have a smoke with me, girls would come over and dry hump me (practically molested); as their goal was to do that to every guy till they reached a 100, where I helped them reach their goal by shooting them towards my friends and high fiving them on a job well done.
Pictures were taken, information was exchanged, and I left with my girl as the Tribal Leader. I had displayed so much value, not so much to everyone, but more for myself, that I began to realize and become aware of the transformation that's happening to my inner game.
I feel that the final pieces are put into place, and I would like to see what the next week has to unfold for adventures and stories.
Till than I will keep you posted.
- Charisma
Saturday, November 1st 2008
Game: Night
Field: The Druid/New City
Wingmen: SeflishGene, Domonik, ChrisVD
Halloween Mayhem - Nov 1st.
First of all - I would like to thank Domonik and SelfishGene for showing up and accompanying in one of the funniest times I had in a long time.
I'm going to keep this field report mildly short and to the point. I went out with a few friends, my girl and a few PUAs who brought their girls as well. We had fun and bounced from The Druid to oddly enough New City - which was absolutely a fantastic time! There were some epic costumes and everyone was just in social state. Which made opening sets a breeze.
I was approached by a few sets who dared to try to open me (its actually amusing to watch from the other point of view and see what pattern they follow). I had a few facebook closes - not so much for trying to push day 2 game, but more so to expand my social circle and have a few more female friends in my life. (The house party i had was an indicator that there's way too much sausage in my circle.)
ChrisVD managed to come along as well - whether or not he's on this site, I'll find out. At first he was overwhelmed by AA (its not easy opening sets when you're the fifth wheel...) but I promised to open sets with him, so this way we keep the vibe of approaching alive.
After a few friendly pushes into set, ChrisVD managed to do very well. Sets he didn't approach and I pointed out, would lead me to go into the set and run the material and routines.
While maintaining a positive vibe and energy, I managed to shoot the shit with what seemed like over 20 people and befriended practically everyone around me. Guys would come out and have a smoke with me, girls would come over and dry hump me (practically molested); as their goal was to do that to every guy till they reached a 100, where I helped them reach their goal by shooting them towards my friends and high fiving them on a job well done.
Pictures were taken, information was exchanged, and I left with my girl as the Tribal Leader. I had displayed so much value, not so much to everyone, but more for myself, that I began to realize and become aware of the transformation that's happening to my inner game.
I feel that the final pieces are put into place, and I would like to see what the next week has to unfold for adventures and stories.
Till than I will keep you posted.
- Charisma
Collection of Field Reports
Charisma the Venusian Artist – Mastering the Mystery Method Post # 3
Saturday, November 1st 2008
Game: Night
Field: The Druid/New City
Wingmen: SeflishGene, Domonik, ChrisVD
Halloween Mayhem - Nov 1st.
First of all - I would like to thank Domonik and SelfishGene for showing up and accompanying in one of the funniest times I had in a long time.
I'm going to keep this field report mildly short and to the point. I went out with a few friends, my girl and a few PUAs who brought their girls as well. We had fun and bounced from The Druid to oddly enough New City - which was absolutely a fantastic time! There were some epic costumes and everyone was just in social state. Which made opening sets a breeze.
I was approached by a few sets who dared to try to open me (its actually amusing to watch from the other point of view and see what pattern they follow). I had a few facebook closes - not so much for trying to push day 2 game, but more so to expand my social circle and have a few more female friends in my life. (The house party i had was an indicator that there's way too much sausage in my circle.)
ChrisVD managed to come along as well - whether or not he's on this site, I'll find out. At first he was overwhelmed by AA (its not easy opening sets when you're the fifth wheel...) but I promised to open sets with him, so this way we keep the vibe of approaching alive.
After a few friendly pushes into set, ChrisVD managed to do very well. Sets he didn't approach and I pointed out, would lead me to go into the set and run the material and routines.
While maintaining a positive vibe and energy, I managed to shoot the shit with what seemed like over 20 people and befriended practically everyone around me. Guys would come out and have a smoke with me, girls would come over and dry hump me (practically molested); as their goal was to do that to every guy till they reached a 100, where I helped them reach their goal by shooting them towards my friends and high fiving them on a job well done.
Pictures were taken, information was exchanged, and I left with my girl as the Tribal Leader. I had displayed so much value, not so much to everyone, but more for myself, that I began to realize and become aware of the transformation that's happening to my inner game.
I feel that the final pieces are put into place, and I would like to see what the next week has to unfold for adventures and stories.
Till than I will keep you posted.
- Charisma
Saturday, November 1st 2008
Game: Night
Field: The Druid/New City
Wingmen: SeflishGene, Domonik, ChrisVD
Halloween Mayhem - Nov 1st.
First of all - I would like to thank Domonik and SelfishGene for showing up and accompanying in one of the funniest times I had in a long time.
I'm going to keep this field report mildly short and to the point. I went out with a few friends, my girl and a few PUAs who brought their girls as well. We had fun and bounced from The Druid to oddly enough New City - which was absolutely a fantastic time! There were some epic costumes and everyone was just in social state. Which made opening sets a breeze.
I was approached by a few sets who dared to try to open me (its actually amusing to watch from the other point of view and see what pattern they follow). I had a few facebook closes - not so much for trying to push day 2 game, but more so to expand my social circle and have a few more female friends in my life. (The house party i had was an indicator that there's way too much sausage in my circle.)
ChrisVD managed to come along as well - whether or not he's on this site, I'll find out. At first he was overwhelmed by AA (its not easy opening sets when you're the fifth wheel...) but I promised to open sets with him, so this way we keep the vibe of approaching alive.
After a few friendly pushes into set, ChrisVD managed to do very well. Sets he didn't approach and I pointed out, would lead me to go into the set and run the material and routines.
While maintaining a positive vibe and energy, I managed to shoot the shit with what seemed like over 20 people and befriended practically everyone around me. Guys would come out and have a smoke with me, girls would come over and dry hump me (practically molested); as their goal was to do that to every guy till they reached a 100, where I helped them reach their goal by shooting them towards my friends and high fiving them on a job well done.
Pictures were taken, information was exchanged, and I left with my girl as the Tribal Leader. I had displayed so much value, not so much to everyone, but more for myself, that I began to realize and become aware of the transformation that's happening to my inner game.
I feel that the final pieces are put into place, and I would like to see what the next week has to unfold for adventures and stories.
Till than I will keep you posted.
- Charisma
Collection of Field Reports
Charisma the Venusian Artist – Mastering the Mystery Method Post # 2
Friday, October 24/2008
Game: Night
Field: The Bank/The Druid
Wingmen: SeflishGene
SelfishGene and I made our way to the bank – overcoming the urge to stay in the house and miss out on the opportunity to go and mingle with the social night life of the city of Edmonton. We make it clear to each other that we have to approach sets, and push past our sticking points – if at the very least – overcome the Approach Anxiety.
SelfishGene’s mission was to approach sets without the use of liquor courage – so as to become a natural approach machine. My mission that night was to practice the use of building a powerful emotional state – so I can use whatever opener I wanted – canned or uncanned; because that’s who I am.
The bank was a disappointment for the number of sets available – not to mention the music was over powering when it came to approach a set and becoming clear and loud. Normally when I make these excuses in my head; I tend to stray to another bar, angry and miserable because I lacked the balls to approach – justifying my reasons.
This did not happen. Instead, I pointed a two set to SelfishGene, who was hugely overcome by AA; and though he refused to open the set, I took it as an opportunity to crash and burn. I ran the set – not successfully, they walked away in the middle of my opener – but I didn’t seem phased. The worse case scenario was played out on my first approach – and I didn’t care. I actually laughed and shrugged it off as I approached another two set at the other end of the bar.
It’s difficult for me to explain what happened – it was if I was filled with this immense amount of energy and was just having fun socializing and talking to groups – dragging them into my reality. For once, since I played this Game – I truly felt like the prize.
Boom – Boom – Boom
Set after set. I was having FUN! The more sets I ran, the more bold I became. I started using openers that didn’t require verbal use – reading several posts that body language is 90% of the communication displayed. Fingering girls to come to me; eyeing girls up and down when facing them – as to put them under the spot light and shrug as if was no big deal (it really wasn’t!).
Eventually we bounced from The Bank – since the played reeked of sausage. But SelfishGene ran one opener before he left – which surely wasn’t his last.
He would later run a set at the druid at the bar, by befriending someone to the left of him – than turning to another set to the right. (He lacked the lock in, but everything else was good!) He was starting to get in his element. Our energy began hopping between the two of us. Recharging our drive to open more sets and play them out.
Watching SelfishGene open another set, I circle the club, and find a mixed set. Ran the opener with such ease and fluency, they were hooked. We exchanged greetings and left the group since they were a couple (shown later in through kino and further into the opener). But they were fun people! Very interesting! I wanted to make note to come back to this set if I need to backwards merge.
I would later run into a few friends who gave us value, since most of them were girls, and I opened a two set in our proximity on the dance floor, while I and SelfishGene winged each other. I wasn’t interested in either of the girls, but he selected a target. I than dragged the obstacle to meet my friends, and we shot the shit, as my wing ran some minor routines on his target. Everything was done so under the radar – and based on my emotional state and the way I was all night – it didn’t feel like I was using gambits – they just…happened.
Though we didn’t close any sets that night – we left happy and full of vitality and energy. There were sticking points – don’t get me wrong, but I didn’t feel that it could have gotten better. The night was fun, exciting, I met new people – and I had this calm feeling that I was on the proper path to what I want to achieve in this community. (Meanwhile my relationship with my current girl is growing, which is slowing my game when it comes to progressing, but I think I might push that – even if it sounds a little in-moral.
In the end I will go back to her – and I am truthful about my nature and who I am. If I want another girl, I will do just that. End the relationship and go after another. (now that’s a different conversation entirely).
Friday, October 24/2008
Game: Night
Field: The Bank/The Druid
Wingmen: SeflishGene
SelfishGene and I made our way to the bank – overcoming the urge to stay in the house and miss out on the opportunity to go and mingle with the social night life of the city of Edmonton. We make it clear to each other that we have to approach sets, and push past our sticking points – if at the very least – overcome the Approach Anxiety.
SelfishGene’s mission was to approach sets without the use of liquor courage – so as to become a natural approach machine. My mission that night was to practice the use of building a powerful emotional state – so I can use whatever opener I wanted – canned or uncanned; because that’s who I am.
The bank was a disappointment for the number of sets available – not to mention the music was over powering when it came to approach a set and becoming clear and loud. Normally when I make these excuses in my head; I tend to stray to another bar, angry and miserable because I lacked the balls to approach – justifying my reasons.
This did not happen. Instead, I pointed a two set to SelfishGene, who was hugely overcome by AA; and though he refused to open the set, I took it as an opportunity to crash and burn. I ran the set – not successfully, they walked away in the middle of my opener – but I didn’t seem phased. The worse case scenario was played out on my first approach – and I didn’t care. I actually laughed and shrugged it off as I approached another two set at the other end of the bar.
It’s difficult for me to explain what happened – it was if I was filled with this immense amount of energy and was just having fun socializing and talking to groups – dragging them into my reality. For once, since I played this Game – I truly felt like the prize.
Boom – Boom – Boom
Set after set. I was having FUN! The more sets I ran, the more bold I became. I started using openers that didn’t require verbal use – reading several posts that body language is 90% of the communication displayed. Fingering girls to come to me; eyeing girls up and down when facing them – as to put them under the spot light and shrug as if was no big deal (it really wasn’t!).
Eventually we bounced from The Bank – since the played reeked of sausage. But SelfishGene ran one opener before he left – which surely wasn’t his last.
He would later run a set at the druid at the bar, by befriending someone to the left of him – than turning to another set to the right. (He lacked the lock in, but everything else was good!) He was starting to get in his element. Our energy began hopping between the two of us. Recharging our drive to open more sets and play them out.
Watching SelfishGene open another set, I circle the club, and find a mixed set. Ran the opener with such ease and fluency, they were hooked. We exchanged greetings and left the group since they were a couple (shown later in through kino and further into the opener). But they were fun people! Very interesting! I wanted to make note to come back to this set if I need to backwards merge.
I would later run into a few friends who gave us value, since most of them were girls, and I opened a two set in our proximity on the dance floor, while I and SelfishGene winged each other. I wasn’t interested in either of the girls, but he selected a target. I than dragged the obstacle to meet my friends, and we shot the shit, as my wing ran some minor routines on his target. Everything was done so under the radar – and based on my emotional state and the way I was all night – it didn’t feel like I was using gambits – they just…happened.
Though we didn’t close any sets that night – we left happy and full of vitality and energy. There were sticking points – don’t get me wrong, but I didn’t feel that it could have gotten better. The night was fun, exciting, I met new people – and I had this calm feeling that I was on the proper path to what I want to achieve in this community. (Meanwhile my relationship with my current girl is growing, which is slowing my game when it comes to progressing, but I think I might push that – even if it sounds a little in-moral.
In the end I will go back to her – and I am truthful about my nature and who I am. If I want another girl, I will do just that. End the relationship and go after another. (now that’s a different conversation entirely).
Collection of Field Reports
Charisma the Venusian Artist – Mastering the Mystery Method Post # 1
Saturday, October 19/2008
Game: Day
Field: West Edmonton Mall
Wingmen: Ron Burgundy, ChrisVD, Joogathore
I arrived at West Edmonton Mall on Saturday, planning this event for a week – since I will be the first to admit that I slumped the moment the boot camp in Toronto came to a complete close. I made every single excuse to avoid leaving the house and actually interacting with women. After reviewing my notes, I began to become angry with my AFC side of myself.
‘Why the hell did I go to a four thousand boot camp to learn to attract and seduce women, if I don’t even go out and use the tactics and techniques I learnt?’ I made a decision right than and there, to force myself outside the house and at the very least interact with sets and improve my social skills. True, I may have a girlfriend – but I have not intention to keeping her as a long term relationship. Therefore I have to go out and approach – approach – approach. (Even if it means juggling work, love, friends and a notorious party life at the same time.)
So with that mindset – I arranged a meeting with one of the students from the Venusian Artist Boot camp; who luckily lives in Leduc. I discovered that he also took steps backwards in his game. I than followed the decision by inviting Ron Burgundy – who brought his wing, Selfish Gene (who had other plans during the day), 4real (who also had plans). Regardless we tore up west Edmonton mall as if it were our playground.
Openers Used:
1) “You spin me right round baby right round…” (3 sets – 2/3 responded very well and had high energy throughout the set. Very receptive!)
2) David Bowe Opener (2 sets, neither really took much interest – one blown out before the hook – moving set)
3) Cologne Opener (1 set, lone wolf – worked exceptionally well. Forgot that the purpose of the opener was to open…didn’t press any A2 material)
4) Cashmere Sweater Opener (1 set, Hired gun – excellent feedback, and shot the shit for a bit, with a little playful bantering. Opportunity for kino – and missed it.)
5) ‘How much does a Polar Bear weigh?’ (for Joogathore – just to conquer the fear of approach, and actually had fun using it)
6) Situational opener with Hudson’s girl at the front, minor kino – rock, paper, and scissors – negged – playful bantering. Ejected too early.
Sticking Points (things to improve)
1) Pressing on to A2 material. Rely less on the opener. Do not eject (crash and burn instead)
2) Kino escalation!
3) Locking In (bounce set or target to wall, or venue)
Good Points
1) Body Rocking, use of False Time Constraint – Roll Off
2) Abiding by the 3 second rule
3) Emotional State/Frame of mind
Game: Night
Field: Oil City
Wingmen: ChrisVD
I did not meet up to my expectation for what I wanted to accomplish on my first night out in a long time. I approached 2 sets, one went rather well, and actually was already locked in. Did some playful bantering and negs with the target – who showed some IOIs. But once again – lack of Kino! It’s definitely something I have to focus my attention on. Second set responded mediocre, and another set (which I don’t count) was blown out before I even ran two words of the opener. That I believe ruined my night.
Rather than maintaining my happy, playful, non-needy emotional state, I took the blow out as a personal blow. Something to also improve on. Also made me realize how uncomfortable the night venues are to me. I HAVE to make them comfortable. And the only way I will accomplish that is going out on a regular basis.
Sticking Points (things to improve on)
1) Non-neediness
2) Kino
3) A2 Material
4) Locking in
Good Points
1) Loud and Social (met new friends that night from a buddy of mine, and managed to practice some story telling routines, which in turn gave me value.)
2) Energetic
3) Approached on my own will – without someone pushing me into a set.
I want to master these skills. I truly want more adventures, women, and confidence in everything I do in my life. I am in mid process of changing my avatar, and I hope to truly become everything I’m supposed to be and more.
I will post more field reports in the near future.
- Charisma
Saturday, October 19/2008
Game: Day
Field: West Edmonton Mall
Wingmen: Ron Burgundy, ChrisVD, Joogathore
I arrived at West Edmonton Mall on Saturday, planning this event for a week – since I will be the first to admit that I slumped the moment the boot camp in Toronto came to a complete close. I made every single excuse to avoid leaving the house and actually interacting with women. After reviewing my notes, I began to become angry with my AFC side of myself.
‘Why the hell did I go to a four thousand boot camp to learn to attract and seduce women, if I don’t even go out and use the tactics and techniques I learnt?’ I made a decision right than and there, to force myself outside the house and at the very least interact with sets and improve my social skills. True, I may have a girlfriend – but I have not intention to keeping her as a long term relationship. Therefore I have to go out and approach – approach – approach. (Even if it means juggling work, love, friends and a notorious party life at the same time.)
So with that mindset – I arranged a meeting with one of the students from the Venusian Artist Boot camp; who luckily lives in Leduc. I discovered that he also took steps backwards in his game. I than followed the decision by inviting Ron Burgundy – who brought his wing, Selfish Gene (who had other plans during the day), 4real (who also had plans). Regardless we tore up west Edmonton mall as if it were our playground.
Openers Used:
1) “You spin me right round baby right round…” (3 sets – 2/3 responded very well and had high energy throughout the set. Very receptive!)
2) David Bowe Opener (2 sets, neither really took much interest – one blown out before the hook – moving set)
3) Cologne Opener (1 set, lone wolf – worked exceptionally well. Forgot that the purpose of the opener was to open…didn’t press any A2 material)
4) Cashmere Sweater Opener (1 set, Hired gun – excellent feedback, and shot the shit for a bit, with a little playful bantering. Opportunity for kino – and missed it.)
5) ‘How much does a Polar Bear weigh?’ (for Joogathore – just to conquer the fear of approach, and actually had fun using it)
6) Situational opener with Hudson’s girl at the front, minor kino – rock, paper, and scissors – negged – playful bantering. Ejected too early.
Sticking Points (things to improve)
1) Pressing on to A2 material. Rely less on the opener. Do not eject (crash and burn instead)
2) Kino escalation!
3) Locking In (bounce set or target to wall, or venue)
Good Points
1) Body Rocking, use of False Time Constraint – Roll Off
2) Abiding by the 3 second rule
3) Emotional State/Frame of mind
Game: Night
Field: Oil City
Wingmen: ChrisVD
I did not meet up to my expectation for what I wanted to accomplish on my first night out in a long time. I approached 2 sets, one went rather well, and actually was already locked in. Did some playful bantering and negs with the target – who showed some IOIs. But once again – lack of Kino! It’s definitely something I have to focus my attention on. Second set responded mediocre, and another set (which I don’t count) was blown out before I even ran two words of the opener. That I believe ruined my night.
Rather than maintaining my happy, playful, non-needy emotional state, I took the blow out as a personal blow. Something to also improve on. Also made me realize how uncomfortable the night venues are to me. I HAVE to make them comfortable. And the only way I will accomplish that is going out on a regular basis.
Sticking Points (things to improve on)
1) Non-neediness
2) Kino
3) A2 Material
4) Locking in
Good Points
1) Loud and Social (met new friends that night from a buddy of mine, and managed to practice some story telling routines, which in turn gave me value.)
2) Energetic
3) Approached on my own will – without someone pushing me into a set.
I want to master these skills. I truly want more adventures, women, and confidence in everything I do in my life. I am in mid process of changing my avatar, and I hope to truly become everything I’m supposed to be and more.
I will post more field reports in the near future.
- Charisma
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