Monday, November 12, 2007
Charisma First F-Close!
First and foremost, a quick summary from the last FR - Ran Attraction Game, Build Strong Comfort, done some bouncing, used videos and photo routines at her place, develop light kino that developed further on, intimacy, and finally a run in with LMR. Overall, good game - but no close.
That is....Until now.
I will like to first officially announce that Charisma/Yves is no longer a Virgin! Those days are in the past and I'm no long self conscious of the fact, nor is longer a barrier that blocks my success!
How did it happen? Well a day after the entire incident with the LMR, i was invited to come over to my target's place. The plan - to carve pumpkins for pie filling.
A perfect excuse to come over to her place, run more comfort game, and develop a stronger connection. Not only was I cool, and being social with her roommates, my mind was racing every game tactic i could muster, every line, routine - which inspired me to run my own.
First and foremost, I found myself wearing a fashionable flower apron - all the while being cocky funny with her, negging, all the while being open and fun. We jam to some tunes, get messy and have a blast!
Things pickup from there, and I'm spending another night at her place, drinking a few shots of tequila and hitting the bar with her and MY new friends. Haha.
Things get hot and heavy when we make it to her bedroom, and the only thing preventing from me and sex was her other roommate, who invented this queer ass rule : No sex in the house.
Are you serious? But I did get a nice blow job from the whole deal. (never had one of those before...it was nice!!)
Eventually, I make a sudden suggestion, that we bounce to my place - since we have a bigger kitchen and a more private entertainment room (the male roommate didn't enjoy my company too much, and my target's brother kept bursting in and out....*rolls eyes* fun....). She hooks, and we grab the filling we made a few days ago, stop and do some quick food shopping (now we're shopping as a couple. A mental note to keep in mind to do in the future with another set as a routine, make her feel like we're a real couple)
We make it back here, and things IMMEDIATELY goes to my bedroom. No LMR at all! (Comfort phase complete!) And we have sex right there and than! The strangest thing?
I didn't get off, but she did, multiple times! Oh, i was enjoying myself like crazy, and she was screaming, moaning, and trying with all her might to get me off. haha - and here i was worried I wouldn't perform very well. *grins*
What happens the next morning? More sex! I last just as long, but this time I get off...and one word i will express my feelings toward sex....
wow! Just fucken wow! Now - it's official, I'm hooked, and she knows it, worse, so is she.
We make some pies, and shoot the shit for a bit - and BAM! We're back in my room....AGAIN!
And it would have happened a forth time, if i didn't put a stop to it. My personal motive, to show that I have some power when it comes to the sex (even though it pained me so much to pass it up....and i had to make it clear too!)
Haha - and it just got better for relationship wise.
*claps hands together in rubbing motion* well, i have to admit, I've improved in game in more ways than i could possibly imagine in three days!
In summary :
I conquered the ATTRACTION phase
I conquered the COMFORT phase
...and I FUCKEN CONQUERED SEDUCTION!
-Charisma signing out!
Thursday, November 8, 2007
I know its a little late, but lets get some Intros going!
But totally introduced yourself, state your goals, motives, what you've accomplished, and what is your character!
First encounter with LMR
I met this HB 8.5 sometime ago through a friend, and we've been doing some chatting on msn or whatever. (which i will refuse to count as attraction game, good thing too, cause I had to work on that when i arrived to my bounce scene)
It was planned that her and a few friends would go to a pool hall for wings. A few of my friends were going anyway; and she offered to come pick me up and head for a few games between me and her.
No problem there, I figured this would give me some one on one time.
So i start A1 from scratch, opening with an opener as an ice breaker, multi threaded, told DHV stories, negged her, than we moved to C1 in the car, where she connected with me and qualifying herself to me.
we get in the pool hall, and we shoot a few games, having light kino. Ran some ESP routines (each hooked!), played a cheap game of thumb wars, she started to dance sexy each time i tried to take a shot in pool (we were the only ones in at the time) and i negged her some more.
We socialize for an hour more or so, and her friends come in. We throw down the pool, and i use the 'come on now, don't be rude, introduce me to your friends' and was 'in' with very little effort. At this point i was in the zone.
We leave later on, just me and her; and we head back to her place. There she teaches me to play guitar (some kino), we shoot the shit, i run the kiss gambit, she replies 'no....*blushes* not yet, i don't trust you enough....'
Where i simply switched off, and became my fun Charismatic self, which shocked her. We shot the shit some more, and i make a bold cocky comedy statement when she asks me where to sleep.
'sorry kiddo, but there is no way that I'm getting the couch tonight. I already called dibs on the bed, but don't worry, I'll lend you a pillow to sleep on.'
She laughs at this and makes a compromise to sleep in her bed as long as theres no funny business.....

Well at this point we turn the lights off, and she's rolling uneasy and stares at me, where i look at her in surprise concern.
Shes biting her lip at this moment, and turns around. Major IOI.
I begin poking her sides and found her ticklish spot, which led her to poke me back....and one thing led to another.
Bam! Heavy kino escalation. We're fooling around for like an hour straight, and i try to make my move.
LMR - damn.
but she continues to establish kino - i figured it was because i didn't have enough comfort built in. Since this is new ground for me, i backed off, and didn't try any LMR tactics. Just played it cool.
we'll i think i had two hours total of sleep, and we we're in each other's arms.
I was shocked at the emotional connection i made with her, and the slight feeling that i actually like this girl! I somewhat felt guilty taking advantage of her, and figured she would make gf material.
Well, later in the morning things pick up again, and i slow it down, to not show that i'm only after one thing. Which worked excellent, cause i was rewarded with an awesome back massage. We shot the shit some more, and had a few laughs and overall enjoyed each other's company.
So i think its unofficial when it comes to me stating that i might have a girlfriend. But things are looking awesome

And i'll get my chance next time, and this time LMR is going out the window!
(nice jump from sticking point going from A2 to A3, to S3....*grins* job well done!)
-excuse the fact that the FR is written rather crudely, i haven't slept much last night, lol, and i think i might head to bed soon.
Friday, September 7, 2007
It's off to Wainwright.
Hey guys; just thought i give you a little update:
First let me welcome all the new members, I truly appreciate you guys for accepting the invitation and hopefully i get to read some posts from you guys. I hope to see improvement from all of you and watch everyone adapt and evolve.
Secondly, I would like to inform you all that I'm heading off to Wainwright for a two month training exercise - which means I won't have any contact with the outside world during that time. (suspected time of return : approx the 9th of November).
Meanwhile, I leave this blog/forum site in Spillz' hands (admin). If you don't already know him, Spillz is one of the most revered PUAs that I've known personally. If you have any issues with game or questions, don't be shy to approach him.
I hope to catch up when i get back, and do some sarging with some of you in Edmonton come around December (should be a blast!)
Till than - rock on.
PS: If you want a photo uploaded for your display pic, crop your picture to dimensions : 147 X 140. Than send it to spillz or post a link on the page so either him or myself will get around to it.
: Charisma
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
AFC to Venusian Artist
Spillz BEFORE:
And
Spillz NOW:
Yo Charisma here:
Hey Bro, hate to Hi-jack your post, but rather than make a post exactly identical, i figure i might as well do the same.
If anyone else wants to contribute to this post let myself and Spillz know.
Charisma Before:
and
Charisma After:
FR: The Bonfire (May 25/07)
We arrived at Crimson's place around 730 or so, and immediately when I entered i had the social value. A bunch of my friends both guys and girls came up, gave me hugs, chatted, and shit. One of my buddys gf's always gives me ioi's so I used that to my advantage for the social value, and I tried to build some jealousy plotlines throughout the night, but we'll get into that later.
Even though I pulled this girl who we'll call HBTaken. Crimson has these bonfires but once a year and they are really a time for us friends to get together and just have an all out kick ass time...which means yes both drugs and alcohol were involved and i was consuming both, even though I usually dont when sarging.
For the beginning of the night I was working the whole place. I made sure to interact with all of the different groups at the party, gather alot of social value for my target to see. Oh btw HBTaken i'd give her an 8, but I'm attaching pictures so rate her yourself...she definitly had PGIR status all night and was hit on the most.
So in the midst of interacting with everyone, I'd always go back over to where HBTaken was and pump her BT, stick around a bit and chat, and then I'd go back to working the entire party. This tactic seemed to work really well in terms of social value but my AFC friends, and even some rAFC/g-pua friends were trying to steal my set, and people were trying to constantly blow me out by saying things like "Hey man, good job, you fuck her yet?" in which I replied "Yah (turned to her) what was it like three times earlier?" she went along with it which worked. I also got lines like "Oh Joe, Looks liek you're gunna have a fun night buddy." to which I responded "Every night is a fun night for me!" which def seemed to work.
As the night progressed it seemed like more and more people were trying to pull this girl from me, one of my AFC friends actually had her isolated in Crimson's room and they were talking. When I went in I was like "OMG you totally have to meet my friend Pete, who just showed up!" and she replied with "Ok, but do I have to right now?" At this point I was realizing I was losing a set to an AFC, and I wasn't about to stand still and let that happen.
So what I did was I gathered all my goo buddies, prolly about 10, and I pulled them ALL back to the room where he had her isolated. Upon re-entering the room I said in a really laid back cocky-funny way "Alright, you guys won't come to the party, so I brought the party here!" I sat down beside her and started talking, and she started paying more attention to me, and after about 3 or 4 minutes of no interest from her, the AFC trying to steal her ejected...my plan had worked I blew him out.
I managed to get her isolated with some help of CrimsonKing and this is when I started to qualify her, and go into C1. It appeared I had her successfully qualified, and C1 was going very well, but I kept getting interrupted by AFC's coming in on my turf lol. However while we were isolated she was talkign about the relationship she was in (she brought it up earlier but I told her I didnt wat to hear her problems in a cocky-funny way) and she was saying how unhappy she was in the relationship and how hes so controlling blah blah. I did standard boyfriend destroying and got some hand holding in here. We all ended up leaving the room so I decided to go do some mingling again, and when I went back I thought it would be smart to build a jealousy plotline, so I got a girl from the party to pivot for me. For some reason when I went back over to her with the pivot she told my sis that they had to go to the bathroom. Which they did like several times that night, but the way it looked was to "girl talk" prolly about me and whatever else was going on at the party during that time.
As it got later and later we all got progressively alot more intoxicated lol. I did try to k-close her at one point, but for some reason the only time I felt it was appropriate to kiss, she didnt seem to think so, and she dodged it, very non-chalantly so no-one else noticed. I laughed it off and played it liek nothing happened.
Although I didn't drink a heck of alot of alcohol, I smoked a shitload of weed. HBTaken got more and more drunk to the point I didnt want to sleep with her cas I'd feel like taking advantage. We ended up going on a drunken walk at one point, a few of us...and surprsingly no one came who was gunna try to AMOG me out of my set. I ended up strattling her at one point on the walk...pic will be included, among more kino. I busted on her for being drunk I was like "Do you even know who I am?" and she answered with "Yah, you're Joe...I know who you are did you think I am all over some random guy?" Overall I got tons of kino, and tons of other ioi's from her, but she was throwing ioi's to another AFC friend as well which involved biting (this was the guy that was supposed to occupy my sister) when this happened I was like "Im gunna let you two be alone together." And I went into Crimson's room and chilled with soem peeps.
It wasn't long after that when she came into the room and sat beside me, we all chatted and we ended up sleeping together on the couch, our bodies entangled in eachother. I couldn't f-close because there were other people sleeping in the room. In the morning this kino continued, and it took awhile for people to get us up. Kino continued when we were at the restaurant we went to for breakfast. She ended up coming back to my place after breakfast but she just went and chilled with my sis in her room, and then she left, no goodbyes but I got a text from her a little bit after she left.
So overall I got tons of kino which included:
embracing
embracing from behind
hand holding
strattling
hair pulling
leg feeling
caressing back/stomach
I was never able to kiss close due to the dynamics...but what do you guys think? I tried isolating but I was never able to isolate long enough for the K-close. She was also wearing my sherrifs badge all night which she STILL has!
Any comments, and feedback welcome.
Monday, September 3, 2007
Acronyms Used in The Pick Up Community:

(THESE TERMS ARE REFERENCED FROM 'THE GAME, PENETRATING THE SECRET SOCIETY OF PICKUP ARTISTS' BY NEIL STRAUSS)
Terms found used with the Mystery Method:
AA - Approach Anxiety. The fear that pangs EVERY individual when it comes to approaching a random set (or even just one) beautiful women strangers. Even the thought to say 'Hi' is enough to trigger this feeling. All Pick Up Artists even suffer from AA, but they know how to deal with it. Only social calibration in the field will allow you to conquer over it.
AFC - Average Frustrated Chump. Basically someone who uses the same tactics as the last individual to attract a beautiful women. Ex: Buying her a drink, trying to get her attention on the dance floor, using lame pick up lines (they do no exist). Someone, who in essence is frustrated with women and doesn't understand why he can't get them.
AMOG - Alpha Male of the Group. Need I say more?
ASD - Anti-Slut Defense. Women will act a certain way, contradictory of their wants and thoughts, because they do not want to be perceived as a slut. Being called a Slut; is the lowest form of degradation for a woman in today's society.
BF DESTROYER- Boyfriend Destroyer. A routine or technique where a Pick Up Artist uses to win a woman over who has a boyfriend.
BITCH SHIELD - A woman's automatic defense to deter men from attracting her. Though her response may be 'bitchy' it doesn't necessarily mean she is a bitch. She's just a bitch to you.
BUYING TEMPERATURE - A woman's gage of how intimate she's willing to be with you. The higher the buying temperature, the better.
CALIBRATE - The ability to react, say and portray certain aspects of yourself after reading your social surroundings.
CAVEMAN - to instantly become direct and aggressive from a passive unresponsive role when it comes to physical contact.
CHICK CRACK - anything spiritual or psychological that heavily interests women (example: Horoscopes)
COCK BLOCK - an obstacle that separates you from the target. Or a friend that comes in to hinder and destroy your game (most of the time unintentional).
CRASH AND BURN - to be shot out of a set (group) without the intent of doing so. You did your best, and it didn't work out.
DHV - Demonstration of Higher Value. Saying, or portraying something that demonstrates you as a high valued individual. (1 : Leader of Men, 2 : Protector of Loved ones, 3 : Pre-selected, 4 : the ability to emote) Usually portrayed in stories; as a short unintentional spike to avoid bragging.
DLV - Demonstration of Lower Value. Something that displays you as a lower social valued individual. (clingy, needy, un-confident, etc)
FALSE TIME CONSTRAINT, FTC - 'Hey, i can't stay too long, my friends are around the corner, so don't get an ideas...' Displaying that you'll be leaving the set at any moment, to disarm woman's instant BITCH SHIELD. Make the set less on the 'uneasy' stage since they're always wondering when someone approaches, 'Okay....when is this guy gonna leave?'
FR - Field Report. A written Document that contains a Pick Up Artist's story of what happened when he was in the field and practiced the material. Usually posted online.
FIELD TEST - To experiment or test a technique or routine that is Pick Up Artist related, on a various number of women before sharing it to other Pick Up Artists.
FLAKE - In occurrence where a woman cancels or does not show up to a planned meeting.
FRAME - The context which a person, thing, event or environment is perceived.
FREEZE OUT - to ignore a woman to make her feel validation for you. Usually a tactic to conquer Last Minute Resistance (see LMR).
FULL-CLOSE - to have sexual intercourse. aka...Fuck-close.
HB - Hot Babe. Women are usually judged by their looks and we give them a rating from 1-10. A HB 1; being super ugly, where as a HB 10 would be the perfect dream woman. Differentiates depending on a person's taste.
HIRED GUNS - Staff who are hired to do a job based on their looks. Perfect to run material for beginners, but don't expect a close unless you can master normal game.
HOOK POINT - The moment where the HB (or Group) finds you interesting and wants to keep you around. Rapport is built.
IOI - Indicator of Interest. Basically a way of displaying interest in her or your direction. Tight eye contact, flick or playing of hair, laughing, asking your name, playful touching...etc.
KINO (KINO ESCALATION) - To touch. Kino escalation refers to the ability to start touching slow and eventually build up the amounts of touching. (example: a light hit on the arm calling someone a dork, to thumb war, to hand holding, to arm to arm, than kissing....etc)
KISS CLOSE - To kiss a girl, make out with passion.
LJBF- Lets Just Be Friends. Where the woman doesn't feel threaten by you, but not attracted to you. She sees you more as another 'girl friend' who she can relate all her problems too and chill with.
LMR - Last Minute Resistance. The last moments where a woman's ASD (anti-slut defense) comes into play where intimacy begins to escalate to sex. (can happen from being on the bed, to putting a condom on). She will push you away and refuse to have sex. If you waited an accumulated 7 hours with a girl, this shouldn't happen. But if it does, you do not push the girl. You say, 'Okay, i understand.' and freeze her out. Go check your email, turn off the charm, watch some tv and say, 'Hey check this out. have you seen this episode?!' and pretend it doesn't phase you. After 15 minutes build the intimacy again, and continue. Repeat if necessary.
MPUA - Master Pick Up Artist. Usually validated with the 5 for 5. (having 5 different relationships and making them all work for you at the same time. Built from approach all the way to a sexual close)
NEG - Backhanded compliment and unintentional insult. The purpose, to make a woman feel self conscious and make her feel as if she's not considered an option for the Pick Up Artist.
NUMBER CLOSE - to get a number from a girl after meeting her.
OBSTACLE - Someone who the Pick Up Artist does not desire, but has to win over and be-friend or order to get the validation from the target.
ONE-ITIS - The disease where an AFC becomes obsessed with one girl and refuses to believe there's anyone else for him. Basically an obsession over one girl. No girl is worth obsessing over.
OPENER - A line, skit, or action that opens a group and gathers the attention on you. The opener is just meant to open the group; not win them over. Not to be confused with a pick up line (which doesn't exist).
PEAKCOCK - To stand out with a piece or multi-pieces of clothing to catch women's attention. Clothing that is loud and flashy.
PIVOT - A wing woman who is aware of gaming techniques.
PUA - Pick Up Artist. Need i say more?
PUSH - PULL - Basically the 2 steps foward and 1 step back.
RAFC - Recovering Average Frustrated Chump. The beginning transition from an AFC to a PUA.
SARGE - To practice techniques and routines on unsuspecting women. Basically - to pick up.
SARGER - Someone who goes out to Pick Up. A member of the community.
SET - A group of strangers with a target that is sought out by the PUA.
SHIT TEST - A comment, question or action that allows a woman to gauge if the man is worthy of becoming boyfriend material.
TARGET - The HB that you want to get a number close, a kiss close, or a F-close from.
THREE SECOND RULE - A PUA has only three seconds from seeing a woman and considering to open to actually opening the set. This prevents the mind from making excuses for not conversing with her. Imagine like jumping out of an airplane.
WING - Someone who's familiar with game, who drives and pushes you to open as many sets as possible. They will point out your mistakes that you may not be self conscious you're doing. They can also be introduced into a set using the WINGING PRINCIPLES to give more value to the Pick Up Artist, steal an obstacle away (good for 2 sets).
CHARISMA - One sexy son of a bitch.
(Any questions? Post them away and I'll answer based on my current knowledge)
-Charisma
Sunday, September 2, 2007
FR: West Edmonton Mall Day Game
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location:
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date:
WEM Day-Sarge
Sorry for the late post guys, but now that I'm settled again in my own home, I can finally get my priorities straighten out.
Without further uh-due, here’s a quick FR.
The plan was to gather as many PUA’s, rAFC’s, Pros out to
Well, the plans were shortly altered, after calling a list of what seemed like 10 PUAs, to shortly only have 3 show up. *shrugs* Hey, can't really complain, I had a turn out anyway, and it sure wasn't going to stop me from running some game.
(Though a blow out later that day did leave a painful punch to my ego; which will be explained later)
I meet Picasso, Avikon, and Skorch down by the mini golf section of the mall.
Quick greetings, yada yada yada....
Well, Skorch goes off to get a coffee over at Chapters - which I think to myself, 'You know what, might as well open a set in the next 20 seconds and nip this AA in the butt before it gets out of control'
I stand in line, and here’s this HB6 cutie right behind me.
Okay....three second rule in effect....now!
Charisma: (Ran the Dog 70 Duo Opener)
HB: (responded quite well)
Charisma + HB : (Very small talk)
End of convo.
Mistakes - Lack of pushing through, no routine pulled, no story, and no neg.
Success - Followed the Three Second rule and opened, hooked.
I grab my coffee and make my merry way with Skorch and Picasso, as Skorch randomly points at some sets (Lack of effort on my part) while he makes his way to buy a belt.
Points to one set by an i-pod stand around the rink. 'Someone open that set'
I swallow my sudden pang of fear, cause i had the feeling i couldn't pull an opener after leaning at the ice rink, walking over to look at the i-pod stand and spontaneously talk about spells. The whole scenario played in my head horribly.
The HB drops the ipod cover she picks up as i'm walking to her. I kneel down to retrieve it, and give it back to her. and walk away.
WRONG MOVE!
I had an opening, it LITERALLY fell in my lap. I thought too much. I could have shot anything out and said at least - hey, i tried.
Mistake: Thought to much, just go with it
Success: N/A
Overall, bad set.
We run into Avikon, and Picasso opens a set on an esculator as we go up.
Skorch points at a cute asian woman, Hb7, and i go in.
Charisma: (2 Part Jealousy Kiss Opener)
HB7: (Very Receptive)
Charisma: (Gets into the root, once again, no neg)
HB7: (Receptive still)
Charisma : (Eject)
Mistakes: Used the false time constraint as an eject when i didn't need to, didn't neg, didn't sit down beside the target on the bench midway through the opener
Success: Opener and body language was well rehearsed.
Skorch points out a lone set in a woman clothing store.
Charisma: (Cashmere Sweater Opener)
Hb5: (Responds but with a negative vibe (she had a BF in the store))
Charisma: Ejected
Mistake: Lack of neg and story. Fuck it - just go all out.
Success: Opened
Two Set at London Drugs (the Blow out)
Skorch points at them, and it seems to easy. A HB8 and 7.
Charisma: Hey guys, can i get a woman opinion on something real quick?
Set: (reluctant) sure....
Charisma: (Mind draws blank...fucked up big time!)
Charisma: (sees the Hb 8 looking at him with her green eyes....) You have very beautiful eyes....can i touch them
Set: NEGATIVE RESPONSE
BLOWN OUT, negative body language my direction, heard, 'Creep' and felt instantly demoralized.
Failure: Leave Mystery's Neg one linear at home and go with something congruent in my nature.
I couldn't open another set till after supper.
Had a quick bite to eat a Moxies, had fun, shot the shit with the waitress, and just forgot about gaming for a few minutes and just chilled. Its needed sometimes.
Skorch goes home, and i try opening a walking set at the rink...
Charisma: (tries running opener)
Hb8 : (shakes her head and walks off)
Ouch....
Failure: Too strong? Frame of mind?
Success: Attempting to get in there again.
We finally hit Chapters, and i ask Avikon 'How the hell do you open a set at Chapters! (the same problem with 'Why am i asking stupid questions in weird scenarios? guess what, it doesn't matter - Over thinking it again.)
I'm like, okay, enough of this bull shit, lets look around. I find a Hb6 working in the kids department, i breathe in heavily and walk forward, 'No second thoughts this time, go with the flow....'
Charisma: Hey there, perhaps you could help me....
Hb 6: Oh for sure! what can i help you with
Charisma : (here comes the stuff out of my ass) I'm looking for a novel series - preferably fantasy for my 8 year old niece. Shes all into winnie the pooh, but i think its time to move away from that and try something more challenging and her age.
Hb 6: What level does she read at?
Charisma: *grins* this is where I'm proud to brag she can read at a 10 year old level. She's a very bright one. what do you suggest?
HB 6: (points out a series)
Charisma: (catches something to his eye) Oh my god....Animorphs! Holy shit, i haven't read this in over 8 years! I can't believe they still have that! Man, those were the days, what were your favorite books as a kid?
( we converse about old books and stories, threw a slight neg here, called her a dork and laughed it off, she laughs and calls me an ass. we look around a bit more, we talk about fantasy adult novels, than Harry Potter (yah for me....guh i hate that series) and we talk about other small things)
At this point I've been in for 5 minutes in convo, and i ejected.
Failure: Should have pressed for the number close. Might have worked, I'll never know now.
Success: My first decent set of the day - finally. Day game is so much harder i find than night game - whew, wow.
And thats basically it gents.
-Charisma out.
__________________
The Name Is Charisma; remember it.
FR: Sarging at the Druid (Edmonton)
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location:
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date:
Night Sarging at the druid.
Simple and short (cause I so don't want to type anymore!)
Opened a two sitting set, ran dog 70 Duo opener, ran negs, did Best friends test, did C vs U (for the first time and worked), had a small convo, sat with the set, and introduced myself as Charisma.
They replied, 'Oh, is that how it is? *giggles* Well, we're not telling you our names either.
I grin and begin to head off back to my buddies, 'Doesn't matter, you'll be known as salt and pepper. You're definitely Pepper, cause nobody can stand it, She looks at me half playful shocked and i smile and strode away.
Opened a 2 sitting set at a table - i can't remember the opener i used, it hooked, best friend's test, started getting into a new DHV story i tried working on, but get interrupted by an obstacle Hb4 friend.
Damn....i had nothing ready. Politely left and went outside.
Opener a three set with the Dog opener again. The Hb5 didn't respond to well, but her friends did. She was suspicious....didn't build enough rapport with her. but i ran another best friends, and it worked and did a quick esp number guessing routine. Off i went after that.
Opened a Hired gun waitress, which went alright, got past the opener, and root.
That's pretty much the sets i opened with Picasso and Randy on Saturday night.
Cut dry and simple.
-Charisma out
__________________
The Name Is Charisma; remember it.
FR: Night Out at the Bank in Edmonton
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location:
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date: mid July 2007
Night out at The Bank
Well, if you ask me, it's about time!
I finally managed to get a hold of some of the guys that i've heard of so much on this liar and was actually able to meet some of them in person.
After making some quick second plans, I gathered up a close buddy of mine, Randy and we were introduced to Layman. Props to the guys - cause he knows his shit!
We headed off to the bank early that night - since we've already agreed that we would be calling her an early night - but fear not, i got a go majority of sets opened last night - even if my game wasn't necessarily where i wanted it to be.
Go figure - lack of practice causes someone to become rusty. ![]()
After watching Layman open a set within the first two minutes of walking into the bar, i decided to approach one after he was finished. You know - throw myself out there directly into the AA, and just deal with it.
Ran a quick 'Who lies more opener' on a two set, which didn't go too badly, but i didn't neg or follow through to routines. (It isn't till i'm out of the set that i slap my forehead and go, 'Damn, i should have ran the best friends test' or something. My mind just goes to a blank - need to work on that)
Randy opened a set or two, and didn't do to badly for a guy who ran his first opener at a night time scene. Kuddos to the guy for trying and going through the pain period.
Ran a total of three 'Do i look gay openers', the last set was a 2 set with a HB 9 and a HB 7; and i had some steady eye contact. I was able to root the opener, throw a quick little neg, but once again i ejected too early.
Which had me thinking - that for now on, im going to go until the set crashes, fuck this ejecting polite BS, lol.
Ran 1 tattoo opener, which didn't go too badly, had a hired gun open me up who motioned me to the bar.
HB 7 : You look like you could use a few tequila shots *laughs*
Charisma: Oh is that so? you buying? (don't even wait for a response) than i'll get a whole round for my friends
HB 7 : haha, you have to buy them first...
Charisma : Oh! I see how you roll. You ain't fooling anyone - you just wanted to find a way to break the ice...I'm on to you
HB 7 : yah...thats it. *rolls eyes* Nice goggles! why did you bring em to the bar?
Charisma : Oh these? its whenever you spit too much when you talk, i can do this....*lowers goggles over eyes*
HB 7 : *laughs* thats awesome!
And once again - i ejected way too early.
At this point i was introduced to Brown Jesus and Practice. Cool guys, though i didn't get to see them open unfortunately.
I managed to open one more set with an opener Randy was thinking of using for a long time now, but never considered using it.
Goes along something like this.... 'Do i make you Randy Babyyyy?'
Lame, i know, haha, but i had to try it.
so there i am with Layman and Randy, when a 2 set directly behind me, a Hb 6 and a 6.5.
Charisma : I lean in, 'Do i make you Randy baby?'
HB : DO i make you what now?!?
Charisma : Do i make you randy baby
HB : haha, no....can't say you do *smiles*
Charisma : haha, nice sense of humor. My name is Randy by the way
Hb : (tells me hers and we shake hands - oh son of a bitch....i could have make a neg with the sweaty hands....why does this shit come after the bar?!?!? hahaha)
once again i ejected too early, but thats okay, I'm learning and now i know what i have to focus on.
At this point Layman had to leave due to the account of having work the next day, but he offered us a ride back. On the way back we got lost and we hit this wicked park, and i mean totally wicked.
it was like opportunity had just hit us. And we took it. Who can say they went to a jungle gym after hitting the bar....honestly?!
though - after some thinking, we concluded it be a wicked place to bounce after the bar with a target and run some comfort game. 'Oh babe, i'm so lost right about now....Holy shit! check this park out!' and so on.
So overall, good night. and im looking forward to sarge with any of you in the future (if not the remainder of this week, 6 months from now when i permanently move to
Chairsma - Rocking out.
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The Name Is Charisma; remember it.
FR: Push/Pull Kino

EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date: June – July 2007
The Importance of Push/Pull, and Kino Escalation
Now normally i wouldn't pull 'dance' game, since I'm more focused on working on my social skills. But Friday night proved to be a different scenario.
Now i just finished moving into my new place, and at which point i haven't had any internet connection for the first little bit - which would explain the slightly late field report. But to celebrate the situation (Trust me when i say moving out of the shacks is something worth celebrating for) me and my roommate had a few beers and sot the shit all night.
I start making calls and arrange people for going out to the roadhouse, mustering my crew. Little arguments were brought up and they were all game.
Well i arrive to The Road House, and right at that moment, I get engulfed into three different social circles!
My Mentor Bud, wasn't shitting around when he nailed the lesson into my head; never burn your bridges. I was literally the most socially vibed person there!
So after shooting the shit, i drag my good friend Samantha to the floor, where we were than joined by a circle of women (not the most attractive, but they make useful pivots).
Surprisingly enough a HB 8 spontaneously came into the group. Apparently a good friend of theirs. *grins* Game On!
I'm not entirely sure what happened, but it felt like i was this whole different person. When she got to close, i pushed her away and danced with someone else. I grab her hand do a little spin, and tell her she had two block feet with a smile.
At which point the dancing started picking up Kino wise, i grabbed her hand and guided her off the dance floor. We head to the couches in the back, at which point i use a few memorized routines. She looks at me with this look, and i do the mystery kiss routine.
She replies yes, and some heavy making out happens. When she gets really into it, i suggest we go back to the dance floor to rejoin our friends. She complies, but doesn't even put any effort in hiding she's heavily attracted to me. Everywhere i go, she comes with me. IOI.
I ended up number closing her, she went as far to suggest to go back to my place. Well, me being the fool i am, i threw my condoms out the night prior, knowing i haven't used them for the entire time I've been in Shilo.
...Murphy's Law....lol
But even so, I'm considering calling her and seeing if she's a flake and see if i can pull a bit of phone game.
-Charisma, Over and Out
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The Name Is Charisma; remember it.
FR: A Trip to Winnipeg That Was Well Deserved
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date: 01 June – 03June 2007
Charisma is back in the field (Field Report file #6)
Lately I’ve been under a dry spell, but thanks to my bud Spillz, I'm back on track on my main goal. (these are not edited since they're written in the moment after the bar)
Field report 31 May 07
The day went pretty well for socializing wise. After being offered an opportunity to go sarge in
would be the perfect opportunity to improve my game in the bar scene.
Upon entering the TYC, i was swamped in the presence of beautiful women and a new crowd. This was my chance to take advantage of these people.
I mean, lets think this through...i don't even live in this general area. It was a chance to pull anything with minimal social consequence.
Unfortunately my old frame of mind took over. I refused to abide by the three second rule. I chickened out on Spillz's mission objective, only
opening one mixed set; and that came out like garbage.
Mistakes with the opening phase in that set:
1) Improper body language and the creation of rapport
2) Weak non projectory voice
3) Paid WAY too much attention to the guy, and none to the HB 6.5. Gave off the impression that maybe i was gay. I still need practice
disarming the obstacles.
4) The opener was stuttered and thrown out to quickly. The AMOG just played me as a tool and basically humoured me. The opener didn't even
make sense when it was put out there.
Good points about the opener
1) Followed through with the three second rule
2) The Balls to at least try.
In reality my frame of mind was not the best it could be. I relied way too much on the group that was with me, that i had no sense of
independence when it came to socializing with new groups.
This has to change. Today.
The one set that opened us on the dance floor (A HB 9, a HB 6 and a HB 5, were dancing on the floor and my buddy started with small talk. I had a funky
vibe, and i could tell that saw i was trying too hard. The dance floor is definitely not the place to pickup. I have to stray away from it.)
Anyways, my frame of mind eventually changed for the better, and i started feeling much more confident. I really didn't give a shit about anyone
or anything at this point. I was just out now - for having fun and that was all.
So the set my buddy opened and danced with all night, approached us (including the crazy red head HB5, who mind you i was considering taking a gernade for
so buddy could walk away with HB6. but she was way too out of er for me to even fully go through with that)
Anyways, here we are, the music is off, and we're gathered at the door. I open with a cheesy segment from the MASK, which made the HB 6 giggle and open up.
her friends joined in, and she claimed she was psyhic.
LIGHTBULB!
I knew this routine inside and out. I used ESP and blew her away wth my clever 1-4 guessing game. The answer was three.
So the HB9 demanded I try it on her.
And i did.
Field Report for 1st of June 07
Last night proved alot more productive than the last field report.
Shit started down over at my buddy's apartment, while listening to some music to pump up the blood in the system and having a few drinks and socializing
between the guys. Things were of to a good start. The frame of mind was stronger and the confidence seem to etch out of my pores.
Thanks to small prep talk with my main man Spillz, i focused my mind one two simple things. The three second rule and ploughing through the material.
So we headed off to The Coyote, and immediately upon entrance (which they told me to remove my goggles and peak cocky hoody) I walked directly to a small two
set and spewed through with the two part kiss opener. This time the opener came ot properly. They listened politely and they were hooked slightly.
But i drew on dry material and lacked the neg. But my confidence went up seeing the words come out fluently.
After that i ran into Andrew who was looking for his two little brothers (who hadn't shown up at the time).
So we're walking around the bar when i ran into a three seated set. Bam - no moment of hestitation - ran directly in the jealous girlfriend opener. I was
animated, had the proper body language when it came to body rocking and it seemed i had the set. But i didn't have any negs to throw out once again, but
that was cool, cause at this point, i was on fire.
I opened another set with an opener i always wanted to try. The 'Hey did you guys see the fight outside, well get this-' they looked at me firt
questioningly, than they slowly began to relax and the set hooked. Okay, so far so good.
Next i hit the dance floor with Andrew, since my other body moved to another loctaion to another bar, a three minute walk from where we were.
Before you know it, me and my buddy are going around dancing with some sets, and i opened them up, ran some new material that i never attempted to use.
I managed to spill out the best friends test, i was able to use negs, 'jeez, she must be the social outcast of the group =D' which where one group were
all giggling and i had a playful narrowed eyed look from my target.
I think we had a total of 4 random sets where we didn't chase any of them. Started from scratch, and each time it felt as my material was becoming more
concrete. It's just a matter of time now...
Things to improve:
Don't stop opening and getting caught on the dance floor chasing for a grind;
Plough through one routine to another;
Neg - regardless of what the AFC voice is saying inside my head
Become more confident and more energetic/expressive
Introduce myself as the alter ego I'm going to fully become...Charisma; not J-Y
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The Name Is Charisma; remember it.
FR: Sun of a Beach
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date:
Sun of a Beach
Yo, Charisma here.
This Field Report is going to be strictly to the point; and it's going to be written more in point form, since I already pre-recorded the sets and events on paper.
So without further a-due, here’s Charisma's Field Report File # 6 - Sun of a Beach.
Prior to The Social Event 'Sun of a Beach':
* Hung out with Ashley and her friends as they pre-drank the shit out of themselves while I watch in bewilderment as they transformed into super gossipy, sex driven, hysterical women.
* I'll be honest when i say that i was slightly out of my league boys. I seriously had no idea what to interject into the conversations, and i'll admit i felt incredibly socially uncomfortable around these three women (though, i did manage to discover other timbits of info, so it wasn't a wasteful occurrence - info which might prove useful to me later on). Considering i never been in the presence of just women with no guys around. Made me realize how I have to re-structure my game, and get socially vibed with women in general.
* So while they were getting their makeup ready, i sat in the living room watching UFC while texting Skorch for a specific favour...To give me missions for the night...
* The first text he sent me was fairly simple. Open 5 sets and make them laugh in less than a minute. Okay - rock on, I have some motivation now!
* Once i finished texting my dear boy Skorch, Ashley propped beside me on the couch and looked at me for a moment. 'Do you mind if i sit here?'
I responded with, 'As a matter of fact, i would highly prefer if you sat in the corner in the dark, where we're completely on two opposites sides of the room....*smiles*' She than laughs and moves in to kiss me. I move my cheek to the side, and she looks at me sadly.
* We agreed (even though we already have) to lose any potential between us. We shake on it, and suddenly a little demon inside began to awaken...my old PUA spark...
* She stays distantly away from me - which to me seemed natural - i accidentally brought her hopes up - but hey, that’s the way it is.
At the Social:
Here's where it sounds more like a FR....
1 - Jealous Girlfriend Opener : Got to the hook point, however, I didn't address the entire group and my voice wasn't loud enough - therefore i pecked. Set over.
3 - Do I Look Gay Openers - 2 of the 3 sets laughed (2 for Skorch's count), 2 of the 3 sets I managed to reach the hook point, paid more attention and focused on everyone else, my voice was propagating a lot farther. 1 Set went as far to give me fashion advice. At this point I should have negged with, 'Pssssh, who are you to give me fashion advice? I mean look at your sandals, they soooo don't match your outfit. So anyways get this -' and i could have jumped into my Toronto Gay Story Routine.
1 - Rock, Paper, Scissors - I heard this somewhere, and after attempting to field test it, it was incredibly awkward. There was no route for it, and i had nothing to follow it up. (I lost by the way)
1 - Who Do you think lies more opener - Poor delivery in voice, pecking again, poor body rocking (none actually), No hook point - therefore ejected. (LACK OF NEG)
1 - High Five Opener (Used after two different women used it on me earlier that night, so i figured i use it) and implemented a thumb war. Which i challenged the HB, who she was vaingloriously trying to win, when i took my opposite hand to pin her thumb down and counted as fast as i could to 10. She laughed and enjoyed it and her friend tried to do it to me. Good energy! (Another laugh for Skorch).
1 - Situational opener - I was on my way to the bar to grab a glass to fill it with water, when suddenly a fight behind me about 20 feet broke out, and i was shoved against the bar with a tidal wave of people as they cleared a circle for them. A lone wolf was trapped directly beside me. 'I'm on to you. You're just trying to use this as an excuse to get closer to me aren't you?' She giggled and rolled her eyes saying, 'Well you know, i had to be close to you'. Eventually lost her in the tidal wave of arms reaching forward for more drinks (4000 tickets were sold, gives you an idea doesn’t it?). (1 more laugh for Skorch).
So the first 5 sets i opened - (4/5) laughed! So i messaged Skorch and asked for another mission.
Which he than returned with, 'Open three sets and insult their shoes in three different ways!'
My heart dropped. Negging is my ultimate Sticking point. I responded with, 'But they're all wearing sandals...'
And go figure, Skorch replied with, 'Exactly =D'
1 - Do I look Gay Opener - Reached the hook, reached the root, negged the target about her grey plain running shoes. 'Those shoes look really comfortable...' which i didn't just plough through to a story, rather i let her react. AMOG stole the set from me and i was baffled. That was my first AMOG encounter.
(1/3 for Skorch)
1- OH MY GOD! opener - 'I love your sandals! they're so peak cocky! *grins* She laughed and winked at me and walked off. For some reason when I concentrate about Negging I forget about the rest of the game structure...hmmm, new sticking point.
1- Un-responded, 'Wow, way to be festive! Nice green sandals!' - AFC
1- Set opened me - HB tries to steal my Hawaiian flower necklace - 'Hey, hands off, this shit ain't free. Its going to cost you 5 bucks every time you touch!' Her friend cuts in, '5 bucks?! what a rip off' as i respond, 'For you its half price. Your friend on the other hand....' She laughs while the HB gives me the puppy dog eyed look - FINALLY NEGGED - 'Oh my god! Your friend is so clingy! is she always like this - honestly how do you roll with her?' Had nothing to follow it up and ejected politely.
STICKING POINTS
1 - A1 to A2
2 - Following up Routines, memorize them if so have to!
3 - Body Rocking
4 - Negging, Negging, Negging!
5 - Voice Propagation
6 - Inner Game - Self confidence around new people
7 - ALWAYS FOLLOW THE 3 SECOND RULE (i could have had three times the sets i did that night if i didn't doubt myself 2/3's of the time!)
8 - NEGGING!!!!!
(by the way Skorch, the sandal mission makes sense now. thanks bro!)
-Charisma
FR: Whats too Important to Write with your Thumbs and isn't Important Enough to Call, isn't Worth your Time
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date:
Charisma’s Field Report File #4
Now, for Field Report File Number 4:
Warning – a lot of drunken emotional drama – not meant for the faint of heart – lol.
Houston’s (The Second and only club in
Things were a lot different. I practiced sorely on the whole day and dedicated it to my sticking points. I recorded sound bites, I read previous Field Reports that are not stated on this site – my own of course. I went out for a breath of fresh air to clear my head and re-strategize my intents and goals.
I went out with Justin, and another fellow who was in the infantry. We shot some pool to begin with – had a good social vibe for the first bit – I was supposed to meet with Amber (a HB that picked me up last week) that night, and received a few texts saying she was there. Rather than running over to her like her lackey, I stuck around and whooped my buddies in pool (one of my favourite activities to do).
3 other infanters came around to our group – and this approximately where the social vibe of the group went to a plummeting low.
Each went downstairs, huddled in this dark corner (I shit you not); clutching a beer in their hands like it was some sort of life preserver. None were even the slightest bit social able. If they did talk, it was about the infantry – guns, and military tactics; things that well, simply have no effect on me. Leave the army at work, and home at home is what I always say. That …=D and I am an electric technician, not an infanter – so it was all gibberish, lol.
So I was like – Fuck this! I just walked up to a random set and ran the ‘Do I look gay opener’.
One thing I forgot to mention in my Field report from Thursday Night….A gay guy actually approached me.
Lol – hey a compliment is taken where it’s given. Who cares?
So, the routine was actually congruent with everything about me, body language, words, mind – because it ACTUALLY happened! It was amazing, because I saw the hook took a serious bite to it. I quickly ran into the ‘Hey did you see the fight outside?!’ which I actually memorized Mystery’s story in his sarge video with the whole catch line, ‘And her boob plopped out, and normally I would say, ‘Hey welcome to
She loved the entire bit, and I could tell there was an IOI. Not bad for a first warm up set. My inner game was definitely a lot stronger. With nothing to follow it up, I ejected politely, and found Amber right afterwards. Exchanged a hug (kino), told a quick story about when I rode a kids
But here’s where the awkward came in. Heather, another girl who I grabbed their number from, was friends with Amber – and I never called her. (Hey, it was her fault – the last thing she said to me was ‘Hey! You better call me or I’ll hunt you down…’ Yah, you’re winning me over Missy. Puh-leez) So she was very self conscious, but I managed to switch the scenario around. And before you know it – seriously guys – I had two women fight over me.
It was such an ego boost. Watching two very good friends fight over who gets the PUA (in training). *laughs* I thought there was actually going to be a bitch fight over it too! But no, instead I managed to convey this to each other as a jealous plot line. Both were trying to sway me over, both admitted they were heavily attracted to me.
Now the Drama… (In shorten form):
• Ashley, a girl I really liked, who was potential Girlfriend material, texted me)
• She was Hammered
• She was emotionally fucked up – because I told her I wasn’t necessarily looking for a relationship.
• She tried to play cool at first, but you know what alcohol does to you…
• She kept saying how attractive I am, inside and outside, and how ‘I hijacked her brain’ weird…I heard Mystery used that before…
• I felt suddenly guilty for what I was doing, causing her to feel like that (slight AFC emotion)
• I texted her back with a small joke to make her feel better
• I lost interest in the two women in front of me
• I went over to the bank machine, opened a HB 9 while I was at it – gay opener again – she was expecting me to ask for her number when I said ‘Hey I need you to help me out! This is dead serious!’ She gave a slight kino check rub and said, ‘You’re very cute’ and walked off. Hmm, where was the ‘Hey! This shit ain’t free!’ Ah well, live and learn.
• I left the bar, because I didn’t have my original group to fall back into.
• I texted Ashley, and told her that I was re-considering about going in a relationship. (Funny how a bad experience from a one-itis will bring back fear and doubt.)
• She wasn’t sure on how to take it…worse she was more hammered
• I called her, and that sparked a gong show of a emotions for fly on her end.
• I’ll spare you the details.
• Meanwhile, Amber and heather are texting me, asking, ‘Where are you D=’
• Amber was full of herself and kept sending superficial texts, ‘I was told I have the nicest legs in the bar, the mini skirt really has its ups’
• I finally got back to the shacks, and didn’t get any sleep till 4 am in the morning, because Ashley was a wreck. And now I’m supposed to call her today, to straighten things out.
• She became a very awesome friend, guys – so I can’t just blow her off. *sighs* Drama…I hate it.
- You’re a Venusian Artist. Don’t put up with other people’s shit.
- Secondly, a perfect relationship in Shilo won’t exist. So lighten up and have fun
So now I’m considering giving the sarging thing a break – unless I’m in Winnipeg of course….and just simply get into a relationship, work on getting rid of the virgin card, and actually have some experience in comfort and seduction – and actually get some confidence with women past the Attraction phase.
Besides, I want more women in my life – influential women. Not one night stands. So maybe I should give it a shot? What do you guys think?
(Oh, and Ashley has tickets for me to the biggest social in Brandon, so I can’t really shake her off at the moment, otherwise I’ll miss the biggest chance to socialize with people…I might ditch her and open sets after sets if she becomes a problem.)
Sticking Points
1) Congruency with routines and story material – but I actually managed to get to that point – BONUS
2) Forgot some routines that could have been used – one liners. Practice makes perfect
3) Sarging in Brandon is a big no no; unless it’s a last resort. Find a crew that wants to go to Winnipeg at least twice a month.
4) Dealing with drama
So there you have it. Success and failure – but in a way, the failure can be used as a tool to be successful.
That’s all I have for now Gents.
Till another time, Happy Gaming.
-Charisma
FR: Not so much Game - Need some Major Tweaking and Practice
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date:
Charisma’s Field Report File Number # 3
After watching 300 (Which is fucken awesome, highly recommend it - movie) I tried to convince a few guys to head out to a little club called Road House. And if you never been in Brandon Manitoba – let me quickly emphasis that there’s only two clubs in the city district. So it’s complicated to run successful sets due to the power of gossip. So word spreads around, and reputation – is highly at risk. But even so – the reputation of the army has already been tarnished, so generally I’m already stereotyped.
Mike was the only guy that was actually the only one I managed to convince to come out. And guys – let me tell you, watching KEYS to the VIP, doesn’t prove any wonders as a moralizer, since that night – two of the worst players I’ve ever seen were aired – and they couldn’t pull a HB out of a wet paper bag with a hole in it. So that sparked a slight sense of doubt, which would only arise to further complications during the night.
Back, to the original FR – and this is the heavily summarized version:
• Couldn’t open a set after three rounds walking around the bar. Not because I couldn’t, I wouldn’t. Unacceptable behaviour.
• I tried to pump up my energy level by going on the dance floor, the dance floor really is a trap guys. Stay clear from it.
• A cougar in her 30’s, was trying to pick me up. Not heavily attractive, but she had this erotic way of dancing – that forced my mind to do a slight caveman turn around.
• Before I know what I’m doing, we’re making out, and the grinding on the dance floor turns to dry sex. Let me tell you one thing – never do this! Why? Like I said it’s a small town, don’t be the stupid AFC who shows his intent for sex right off the bat.
• In either case, she was introducing me to her friends, which for some reason – they heavily enjoyed finding out everyone’s ages, and laughed at the results. (for ex. One guy was 26, but looked 17. And they freaked out and laughed at the poor guy. I mean, come on ladies, you’re in the environment where people don’t care of other people’s ages – you all obviously need to do some growing up.)
• She left for a moment at the end of the night, and told me to wait – like a good little doggie. She was definitely having the intent for sex. And suddenly I snapped out of my ‘lust’ crazed stare; and became self conscious of what was going on. I wonder if that’s how women fell LMR?
• I ditched her on the spot, found Mike and went outside. Meanwhile her friends are approaching me and saying, ‘Hey, did you see our friend that was with you? The last I checked she’s still in there looking for you’
• ‘Is that so…?’ Grab Mike and high tailed it out of there. (Let me be frank with your gentleman. I’m a virgin. I’m not ashamed to admit that. But I don’t want to blow my load on any random chick that’s willing to give it to me. Fuck that. I don’t want some cold slab piece of meat offered to me on a plate. I want to earn it! I want to win it through skill and patience. And I wouldn’t mind having a slight emotional connection through the first time. But hey, that’s my personal view/decision)
• However I did manage to open one set. But it was a lone one, and I fucked up the opener trying to spill it out. Two openers fused in one (the jealous girlfriend merged with the Who Lies More?) Whoops.
Sticking points for Thursday Night:
1) 3 Second rule
2) Power over my sex drive
3) Opening
4) Inner Game
- Notice how your energy is different from a while ago? You expect things to come to you. It’s as if you forgot the fun you had when you were in
FR: A Night that Turned for the Worse, a Lesson is to be Learned
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date: Feb 2007 (Near the end of the month)
Charisma’s Field Report File #2
Well Gents, time for a quick overview of my second field report.
And I’m going to pre-warn you, it may not be what you expect…
The Location :
The People: Myself, Jeff, James (who ended up going home with a woman, kudos to him) and a very close (well….was) friend of mine – Caitlin.
The
So what went wrong?
The night at the club was splendid, a great ass kicking time! I was on the dance floor – surrounded by gorgeous women, dancing and chatting with a whole bunch (not technically pulling the casual openers, since they opened me) of them, and even managed to get numbered close by a fucken 9. A 9 asked for my number!
I really did feel like the shit, and not to mention I felt highly like the prize. That’s never happened before – and it really did make my night.
Which caused the jealousy plot between me and Ashley – and she even admitted she was more attracted, but slightly jealous after the incident. So things were going smoothly…until…
We headed to Humpty’s. We had a blast for the first hour and a half (so much, we didn’t want to leave.) But let me tell you something, when it comes time to picking a pivot (even if she’s knowledgeable about the Game; don’t bring a close friend with you).
Caitlin kept spitting DLV stories again and again in front of my – what I would have called my potential girlfriend.
Over and over; always about the past.
I’m not necessarily proud of my past, since it was a harsh time for me, she can’t understand that, she thinks she has me all figured out! (I’m not going to let this get the best of me….I’m going to relax, and get back to the FR)
So I ended up saying, ‘Would you shut up…’ Caitlin took it in the form of a joke and continued, and she slipped something she SHOULDN’T have slipped.
Caitlin: ‘Oh did you know he rated you?’ – To my set
-note: I trusted Caitlin, since she’s supposedly in the game to keep that to herself. I found her a HB 7, with a HB 9 Outlook and personality. So the cute factor was a big influence. This being said the wrong way, would pretty much destroy any self confidence she has and transform me into a shallow jerk and no longer the loveable guy -
Charisma: …
Ashley: ‘you rated me?’
Caitlin: (realizes her mistake, she wanted to boost her ego and make me look good by mentioning the cute part….) ‘Well….in a good way’
Charisma: ‘Caitlin, seriously – shut the fuck up! (I felt the social pressure, I really did. I couldn’t react witty, I couldn’t react cool, she pressed my button…and she knows about it too)’
So this led to half an hour of awkwardness, where Jeff tried to salvage the group by being humorous and funny. I felt Ashley more distant from me, and I felt Caitlin suddenly drop in energy and vitality – as she became super self conscious. And well, I was just generally pissed!
After calling a cab, Caitlin stands outside, as I say goodbye to Ashley – trying to save what could be saved; admitting to her that basically the rating I gave her, but told her everything about her was fantastic – that I didn’t want to act like a shallow son of a bitch. – Too bad for that, I think I blew my chances with her…even though there was an ‘Aw, its okay… (Slight kiss)’ but it was socially awkward –
-Second Note: I HATE SOCIAL AWKWARDNESS, that and Ashley mentioned ‘you would have gone with the other girl instead of me wouldn’t you?’ than I tried explaining to her that I didn’t even know her, let alone her name; that I was merely trying to expand my social circle – jealousy plot line kicks me in the ass…oh and the foot in my mouth was a nice touch –
So the entire cab ride was just me and Caitlin in the back seat, where she just lost it on me! All about how ‘I shouldn’t be ashamed of my past (I am a bit, but I’m focussing on moving ahead) and how I’m not the same Jean-Yves….blah blah blah, military/game changed you, I don’t like the new you, why can’t you be the old AFC loser Jean-Yves?’
I lost it, I really did. Way to smack me in the face and degrade everything I’ve ever done. Just because you think you know me Caitlin. Where were you in the past two years when I needed you most?
WOMEN! God, they can be so annoying at times! So now, my 13 year friendship is going down the gutter because Caitlin can’t accept the new changes (even though I’ve been more like myself around her and she admitted ‘loving the new me’ not so long ago). So I told her, ‘Hey, when you decide to do your own thing, without any help, and start from scratch, come talk to me. At least that way, you know what the term sacrifice means. Maybe do some growing up while you’re at it’.
So now, I imagine she’s pretty pissed. Secondly, I think I lost everything with Ashley, if not, it will be a weird awkward week. And finally - thirdly – Jeff mentioned at the table at Humpty’s, that the 9 that picked me up; just wants to fuck a military guy with no strings attached.
Awesome…right in front of Ashley…
Joy.
So – guys, sorry to come out as a whiney bitch – but this field report is definitely going under the FAILURE category. A lot more work is needed to be done, and I’ll have to suck it up and open new sets, make new friends, and continue on as per –while becoming my best self.
Sticking Point(s): Trusting people too much and having my own words bite me in the ass, and poor control of threads to avoid DLV stories.
*sighs* Sorry again guys, but that’s all I got for tonight. Thought I ventilate a bit and post this up.
-Happy Gaming as always.
-Jean-Yves/Charisma
- Truly I let my emotions get the best of me in this scenario.
- Expect the unexpected
- The man with the more choices on how to react has more power over a conversation. That man must keep his emotions intact.
- Don’t let your past hold you back. Rather look at your current successes and look to the future
FR: Pulling Some Game in CFB Shilo (Anything is Possible)
EMSIC –
My first recorded Field Report posted on socialimprovementclub.com/forums, under Field Reports. (Note: you need to be a member to view the other files.)
(Location: Canadian Forces Base
User name: Charisma
Category: Journal
Date: Feb 2007 (There were many other field reports that were posted on Scorch’s blog, but have been deleted for the months of Nov-Jan)
Charisma’s Field Report File #1
Foreword:
Gentlemen, I would like to first start by saying that I know that I don't post as much as I should.
But I assure you there's a very good reason why I refrain my posting on a regular basis.
I'm sure most of you have been around the MMF; and as a result, you've seen countless times, guys posting advice on the board, when in reality they are in no position to give any. Since most lack the initiative to follow their own advice.
So rather being a 'keyboard guru', I'm going to post what information I find, is dramatically important to my – and everyone else’s, self progress.
That being said: Field Reports are automatically given; regardless of success or failure.
My field reports will be a gauge to prove to myself what level I’m currently on. Which by the way, you are all more than welcome to critique me. Output is always appreciated.
Therefore I’m making it my own mission to sarge or at the very least, be around women one day out of the seven in a week. However, living in CFB Shilo, really does makes it that much more difficult to sarge.
Excuses…- we have to try to our outmost ability, and expose ourselves again and again, if we are to improve on our techniques. So the goal is to update my FR once a week.
Now without further interruptions - on to the Field Report
Actual Field Report:
The day started like any other, get up - get dressed - shave - eat - go to work - get trapped in a snow bank on the way to work – and deal with broken pieces of electronics all day.
My mentality at work isn't close to as comparable to my mentality as a Training PUA when I’m out with my friends.
- This is no longer an issue
It’s something that has been brought to my attention, and I deem to fix that small detail. Confidence at work, will improve your confidence at the field. After all, the Game begins at the break of day, just when you do.
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The work day finally ends, and I grab my martial arts uniform and head off for my second session of Jiu Jitsu. Hopefully stimulate the blood.
It did the trick.
So when I arrived back to the shacks, fumbling for my keys to open my door to my single bedroom; I suddenly find myself thinking, 'You know what? I'm sick of this routine – staying on a Thursday night, when I can go out and have fun!'
I than high tail it to the second floor and knock on my buddy's door, Justin and Jeff - and basically tell them that we're going to be heading out for the night.
Needless to say they were all up for it. So we decide to split a cab three-way (60$ total) to go downtown.
Well we finally get to the bar.
And the first thing I do after putting my jacket in the coat check is open a quick set (nothing too extreme).
Charisma: 'Hey guy's, where do you go to sign up for riding the bull?' *Every Thursday night, they have this bull like contraption which is held in place by pulleys and ropes a top the dance floor. At approx 12am, they pick 8 random names from those who signed a waver form to ride the bull, to see who gets the longest timing (there’s some prize involved, but I don’t remember what) ‘I’ve wanted to do it for a long time now, and I think tonight is the night!’
HB 7: ‘You're not planning on actually riding that thing!?’
HB 8: (married) ‘You rock! I'd so do it with you!’
Charisma: ‘Oh snap! You know, I bet if we bribe them enough - we could get all three of us on there at one time. How awesome would that be?’
(Set gets energetic; we give high fives, and have a laugh)
HB 7: ‘I was actually thinking of signing up....’
Charisma: ‘We'll let’s sign up together! Come on - you only live once - besides, it'll be one hell of a blast!’
HB 7: (she looks at me)
Charisma: ‘We have to hurry before there are no positions left (grabs HB 7 Hand lightly and slowly direct her towards the opposite end of the bar. Kino test - she grips tightly as I start to let go) *IOI
We sign the waver, and the HB 8 ends up chickening out at the last moment. They eventually go off to the shooter bar, not before trying to convince me to buy them the shots.
Charisma: ‘Sorry, but I quit drinking. Besides, I’m not a big fan on the whole ‘buying girls’ drinks’ thing’
HB 8 - You're SOBER?!
(Both the HB 7 and HB 8 look at me as if I have two heads)
Charisma: ‘I don't need alcohol to have a good time with my friends. Which reminds me, you guys should so totally meet them!’
So the HB 7 and the HB 8 start heading over to the shooter bar…but not before the HB7 (Ashley by the way) looks back at me for a moment, as if contemplating on staying behind.)
Charisma: ‘Something tells me I haven't seen the last of you two! Go off, I’ll be with my friends if you’re looking for me’
So I rejoin Justin and Jeff and a few other army boys.
Justin – who is a complete natural, with a real awesome Game frame, was going off about body language and how to read people. While also pointing out who would be the most receptive and who would not.
We than hit to the dance floor for a few tunes, wind down a bit, have and just simply have fun.
Well, we ran into no other than Ashley and two of her other friends.
She than starts to dance towards me; and we shoot the shit for a bit. She asks me for my name; I give it to her. She than asks if there’s another nick name I can go by, rather than using Jean-Yves. It’s not an easy name to remember...
'Call me Charisma'
HB 7: OMG! I LOVE IT! That so suits you! Who gave you that name? *IOI
I lie about how my friends called me that in Kingston due to the fact that I was able to befriend anyone (build the character right?)
So finally the mock mechanical bull comes down, which I never got to ride by the way, and Ashley was actually one of the names called out by the DJ. She doesn’t last very long and I tease her for a bit and we have a laugh about it watching other people trying to attempt it.
So we do some light dancing, which becomes a little more interactive between her and I, where I simply react by pushing her away gently (2 steps forward, 1 step back) which she severely enjoyed.
Charisma: 'You're getting to close'
Anyways, one thing led to another - and I ended directing her to the upstairs portion of the club, which is less nosy than the bottom floor. We grab a few seats and we start to chat about anything – really.
Well - this is my sticking point boys. Telling stories…
Once I isolate, it feels like I have a new anxiety where I can’t seem to think clearly and recall the stories of DHV until conversation actually starts to flow. Is there a way to by-pass this without acting like an AFC and pull the question game (‘what do you do for a living?’ - sadly I ended up using this)
We start exchanging our worst embarrassing moments, and our worst fears (apparently she’s terrified of cats). And suddenly halfway through a conversation, I stare into her eyes - and though this girl may not be a 10, she is as cute as fuck. And her eyes....wow!
So, suddenly we both stop talking, just looking at each other - and BAM, we slowly start making out right than and there. No word was said. I didn’t even need the Mystery kiss close.
So we're there, for like 15 minutes, initiating heavy kino, yet light enough - so as not to get her too aroused into S1 (Fool’s mate I believe is what it’s called?).
So afterwards I take her to the dance floor again, rejoining our friends – and there’s some severe hand holding. Good kino – and it felt quite nice to be honest.
Suddenly the slow music spontaneously comes out of nowhere, creating the perfect end for the atmosphere.
I'll even admit I felt a slight emotional tinge/connection. It felt really good, and reassuring at the same time. We ended up kissing some more, and she grabs my cell-phone and puts her number in along with her email. Right on!
Charisma: 'You know what? I can’t find some of my friends, we should forget about them, since they’ve already ran off to do their own thing. I say we hit Humpty’s for a bite to eat…I’m starving!’
Ashley agrees and I ran into Justin in the process.
My first successful bounce from the bar scene!!! ;)
Once we arrive there, we get pretty engaged into a deep conversation – and spontaneously get all excited and rejuvenated! (By the way, I would like to point out that Justin is a kick ass wingman, and knows exactly what to say to keep women intrigued. I could learn a thing or two from him.)
Once we paid for our meal, we jump into a cab, and eventually stop at her place to drop her off. Meanwhile I’m sitting beside her in the backseat (we found Jeff along the way, swaggering in the streets, lol. And they wonder why I quit drinking) and she opens the door slowly to get out. I catch her hand slightly before she leaves to say goodbye and she looks at me as she’s halfway out the door....
Leaning forward, while she’s doing the same, we kiss again, and she smiles (I swear there was a tinge of a blush too!).
Charisma: 'Night babe. Keep in touch alright? You have my cell and I’ll give you a call sometime.' (We exchanged numbers earlier when she gave me hers)
She waves gleefully and we head back to Shilo, with Jeff starring at me with a slack jaw.
‘Where the hell did that come from?!’ *laughs* It was a nice ego boost to hear that, I’ll admit.
And just to clarify, the trip is like a 20 minute ride from downtown to get back to the base. The entire time, I kept getting text messages like 'You're sooo amazing!' and 'You're too good to be true!' *Grins* I never had a girl pay that much attention to me before (minus the crazy 35 year old cougar woman….but that’s a whole another story!)
A good night all around, and even now, I’ve been chatting with her on msn. And I believe there’s potential to move this to a date easily in the near future. :) Which might mean I could have a potential girlfriend in the near future.
Hopefully that will conquer my fear with women once and for all! (Seduction is my major sticking point – I’m terrified of it, but SO intrigued by it.)
Well that’s basically a wrap boy. Happy gaming!
Sincerely
-Charisma