So my background story is as follows:
I head off to Cook County Saloon down on whyte avenue to meet up with a close friend of mine who left to go to Brazil for some missionary objective; rock on for her. So we celebrated her going away party by being social and blasting the dance floor into tiny little pieces. Well - during this time I was opening a few sets, being sociable and fun; winging with my roommate of all people (who always hated The Game; yes, I am open about it - but we seem to flow off well with each other, and he even admitted it changed me in a lot of ways), were the center of attention that night.
During this time I met Caitlin, who was part of the group I was partying with, and exchanged minor greetings. (there was a big group of us of at least 14 people). Now I didn't run any initial game on her. Which led me to be surprised the following day when she messaged me over facebook - admitting she was severely attracted to me. (I would like to point out this was my roommate's girl of choice he wanted to approach....ha ha...Game doesn't work my ass).
So we shot the shit for a while, exchanged numbers, did some playful bantering and made plans to go out to the Olive Garden as a day 2.
We really connected very well, and had a lot of fun that night - even getting a table to join us in a short conversation of playful nature before we left. To me this was a DHV in my favor; cause now she can see that I'm socially acquainted. We than decide to make plans for a Day 3 at her place to watch some old classic Disney Movies (Aladdin baby!).
Now this is where things start getting weird.
I meet her folks (found out she lives with her folks), who we're pretty cool, but at the sometime border line of awkward. I felt slightly uncomfortable in their basement with my girl in my arms, and after a while we start talking about small things (bantering and cocky one liners didn't work well in my favor...I over used them) Eventually I felt this need to kiss her. I knew if I didn't, I would quickly be thrown into the friend zone - past experience has shown me otherwise.
So I ran the 'Do you want to kiss me?' routine; which led to loss of the moment, cause it threw her off. So I wasn't able to close that 6 inch gap. Than she drove me back to my place, and I knew - if I didn't close the gap here and now - it would be game over. So I made the move - which led to two pecks.
Then we went out to new city - which led to a night that was lame and boring, but we managed to have fun outside for 45 minutes, before we all went our separate ways. I did however, manage to make out a little bit with my girl - but there seemed to lack a little bit of a spark; at the time I didn't realize it.
Last night we wanted to do something, and we ended up going for some hot apple cider at Second Cup - trying to change the location with the girl, and do some bouncing (which is where I think I failed the most). Showed her some of my vulnerable side, was more cool and collected, and ran some minor kino hand holding. Went well I thought, until we got back to my place.
Where a movie was put in the entire time (and I have a reputation of not watching movies the whole way through with a girl - indicator number 2) and barely any contact. So as she left for the end of the day, having work following later that morning; i offered to walk her to the door downstairs of my apartment. Which came the next move that was either going to make or break the interaction:
I was talking with Saint, about my sticking points and situation, and we ended up talking about going 'caveman'. He recalled a part in The Game where some Master PUA would take girls by the throat out of the blue - and hit them against the wall, let go and make out with them right than and there. And it had come to my attention I'm not bold enough, and Matador was trying to tell me this in Toronto. So while we were going down the elevator, I tried pulling this move; which didn't go well. It was one of her zones on her body that threw up her defenses (of course it would...damn it). So it led me to fall back apologizing, lost in what I should do next, and said goodbye to her.
As I was hitting the elevator button to go back up, she jammed the door, and made out with me - which threw me further into the loop (what is with this girl?!?!), and I was thrown back in confusion. She than practically skipped out of the door, and I was left hold the door open in blank bewilderment. At this point I figured things were finally picking up; till just a moment ago through writing this FR, something happened.
I received a text stating : 'i was thinking about it alot last night, and i really wish there was more between us, but don't feel it
' Which I can agree with, since I didn't feel that 'moment' that chemistry that really bonds two people together - which is oddly the same problem that 4real has with his target right now. So to me, I don't think this will be the last time we'll see this situation again.So I knew it was Game Over, and she stated she still wants to be friends, as cliche as that sounds. Which is fine in my books, because I'm not entirely disappointed or angry, because I know I at least tried to make a difference. And from the interaction I had with her; I managed to grow a little bit more as a human being, and I don't regret anything I've done.
Would I have done it different? Of course, but for now, I have to re-focus on my theory, since I haven't read or touched any for a long period of time.
So back into the Game; sticking a quarter in and start back at Level 1 - it's time to beat the all time high score...
PS
I would appreciate the feedback and references you can pass on. I need some help boys/girl, lets see what we can do with our heads put together to rid of the 'Too Gamey' approach I have when opening sets, and my stuttering stops when escalating kino.
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